Post # 1
I ordered my dress back in September and have been having some serious regrets ever since. I only tried on a few dresses and ordered it immediately after trying it on, and it was the only store I’ve ever been to. I have since accepted that it is my dress and there’s not much I can do about it now. My mom paid for it too and I would never make her feel bad by looking for a new one.
Well when I ordered the dress the sales lady talked me into ordering the size I had tried on, even though it was a bit tight. I had wanted to lose weight for the wedding and thought that the stomach that I had in the pictures would be gone. Well it’s now months later and I have lost zero weight! I have such a hard time giving up junk food because my Fiance is never home for dinner so I eat anything quick and easy for myself. I can get into a workout mode for about a week then I get too busy and get right back where I was.
I think my dress should be coming in the next month or two and I am absolutely terrified of what I will look like in the dress. I’ve been dreaming of looking like this beautiful bride for so long that I am honestly dreading the wedding because I am so worried about looking ugly. I know that sounds horrible, and it has nothing to do with my Fiance because I’d gladly go marry him without this wedding, but I am just so scared of looking back on pictures and thinking “Wow, I could have looked better than that”. It also doesn’t help that we spent wayy more on photography then we had budgeted for and I keep worrying that it will be a waste of money because I will just end up hating how I look in the pictures. I hated the engagement pictures at first because of how I felt I looked, even though the photographer did an amazing job.
I know I just have a really negative self image right now that needs to be worked on, but I just can’t help feel worse and worse about myself the closer the wedding gets and the closer my dress is. Has anyone else dealt with feelings like this? I hate that I am so hard on myself but I don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
Sorry I should have posted this under emotional 😛
Post # 4
Oh no! I am sorry you are feeling this way. Even if it is a bit tight when it comes in, you will still have time to lose some weight before the wedding.
Sometimes all it takes is a routine and motivation. I put up some pictures of victorias secret models in my closet and I see it every morning. (Somewhat sadistic, I know lol)
It does help me get my butt in gear and work out!
Just buckle down and do it, you can do anything for 5 months! Thats the way I think about it lol
Post # 5
I know how you feel. Truth is, when I bought the dress and I was bigger, I made the same commitment to myself and went through the same things you are going through. And I ate the things I ate for the same reasons as you (bc lets face it, life is busy!) But, the ONLY way it will change is if you MAKE it change … and this should be some motivation!
You have the dress, that’s a fact. You need to pack a lunch, maintain going to the grocery store, and at least eat healthy if you’re unable to excersize. (I lost 40 lbs and I can honestly say I didn’t excersize) Salad, salad, salad (and you’ll hate it, but do it … keep reminding yourself the reason as to why). My motivation wasn’t the wedding dress (though it was the beginning, but like I said, didn’t do very much to kick my butt into gear). I wanted to be thinner, I didn’t want to look like that in my photos (like you), etc. I’m sure there are a lot of brides that feel that way. My motivation came when my mother told me she was nervous about my health (asthma, stomach issues, etc) and she believes its because of my weight gain. To see her so nervous, bam, weight loss.
Find your motivaiton, whatever it may be. And you can do this. But, you have to make the change … within the 1st week, eating 5 times a day (every 3 hrs) and eating right, you’ll drop all the water weight and 10 pounds will fly.
Good luck and let me know if you need any advice on the diet. 🙂 You can do this!!!!
Post # 6
OMG! I had so many of the same feelings you had about a month ago. When I got the call that my dress had come in my heart sank a little. I was excited to have it but so nervous it wouldn’t fit (I ordered a dress in a size I couldn’t try on and also ordered down thinking I would lose lots of weight). Well push came to shove and with the holidays I pretty much maintained if not gained. Well…my dress is in and guess what? It doesn’t FIT! I can’t even make the corset tie up! I have 4 months now to get my butt in gear and let me tell you…it has been my motivation. I think although I didn’t want my dress in … it is such a motivator and will help you finally “start”. I feel like the tangible object hanging on my door everyday makes me remember … yep I want to get in it. I don’t know if this helps you but just know others are in the same boat as you! You can do this! I can do this! I keep telling myself that nothing tastes as good as it will feel to be in my wedding dress….best of luck! If you want to talk or need motivation….message me.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you feel this way as well! I know that I recently got my butt into gear and started a workout routine and watching what I eat. I have been doing the 30 day shred every day (on top of fencing 5 days a week) and then I downloaded a fitness ap for my phone. It’s called “My Fitness Pal” and it basically tracks your calories (the ones you take in and the ones you burn). It really helps! And that ap really motivates me to work out so that I can burn calories and I feel bad eating more than I should, so it helps with that as well.
Also, I know that there are also quick and easy meal options that are a bit healthier. I tend to have the Healthy Choice Gourmet Steamers when I need a meal fast (which is often because I have to go to fencing class in the evenings 4 days a week and don’t have time to cook a full meal before I go). Also, I just don’t buy junk food very often. If it’s not in the house, I won’t eat it. I usually just stock up on fruit and healthy snacks.
Hope this helps! And whether you lose weight or not, I’m sure you will look GORGEOUS on your wedding day. Plus, you can always just get your dress let out a little bit if it’s just a bit tight. I’m sure if it’s not too tight on you and fits you perfectly you’ll look and feel much better! 🙂