(Closed) Terrified of announcing engagement to mother with possible mental issues

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is hard.  I think it’s best to  just let her know, as you should, and take everything she says after that  with a grain of salt.


Your happiness is a normal and healthy reaction to an engagment to someone you love, her behavior is not.


If she cannot accept this information w/out acting out or responding in other erratic ways, you must sever the ties with her. This the rest of your life we are talking about.

If she shows up on your doorstep, or tries to harm you in any way, or causes you pain, it’s not your fault, she is the ill one, she needs the help.  You are not responsible for this. Nor do you need to put up with it.



Post # 4
6215 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Honestly, I would just tell her and help for the best. If she does something crazy, call the police or try to force her to see a psychiatrist. What does your dad have to say about this stuff?

Post # 5
3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@FMonauer:  yikes. I would probably consult with my siblings first and swear them to secrecy. is this possible?

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