- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My boyfriend of over 5 years finally proposed to me on saturday! I’m SUPER excited and happy! We have been through thick and thin and I’m so happy that we’re finally getting married.
With that said, I’m terrified of breaking the news to my parents. I have a lot of friends I want to announce this to, but I have specifically held off on announcing so that my parents would be the first to know. Plus, it’s better they find out from me or my fiance than through the grapevine or facebook.
Announcing my engagement is no doubt something I really want to do, but the problem I am facing is how difficult my parents (particularly my mother) is and anticipating their reaction. My parents dislike my fiance. Dislike is actually a nice way of puting it.
Let me just say that the person who is primarily giving me grief about my choice in love is my mother. She has all these friends who love to compare how their daughters married a rich doctor/lawyer/[insert rich profession here]. I feel that she is this way because she wants to show me off and compare my future husband to those of her friend’s. When I tell her this, she says that she is against my relationship because she wants me what’s best for me. She thinks wealth and social status can accomplish that for me. (My parents don’t have a good marriage either)
Anyway, long story short: I believe my mother has a history of mental or emotional issues. She does not want to seek treatment and no one dares to tell her that she has these issues because she will go crazy. One time, she wanted to commit suicide when she and my brothers had an argument. She even went as far as withdrawing out all of her cash and preparing a handwritten will. I am afraid that announcing my engagement will get her to do something similar.
How do you think I can avoid my mother from doing something crazy when announcing something that is happy for me? As a note, my mother has gone as far as fly across the country to my house to try and force me to go to my parent’s house. We live in separate states.