Post # 16
Get yourself out of this marriage! There is no shame in recognizing your mistakes and actively working to get yourself to a better spot. I’d rather be 35 and living with my parents than the alternative you have presented.
If you aren’t already, get yourself to an Al-Anon meeting and/or in some therapy. You’ve picked two partners with addiction issues and you will likely benefit from some work on yourself to you can find healthy relationships in the future.
Post # 17
mel2 : Time is going to pass either way. People are going to judge either way. Do what is right for you.
I agree completely! I am so sorry you are going through this bee. I have two people close to me who are on their third marriages and they are SO much happier. I’m sure there was some judgement (tbh my family all knew that our relatives second marriage would never last), but now everyone is too busy being happy for them. People will think what they will anyway – it’s more important that you do what’s best for you.