Post # 1
I am terrifiedof babies! I’m an only child never babysat a day in my life. I have no clue how to take care of a baby and it freaks me out. I think I’m going to be a horrible mom. we aren’t getting married until September and my plan is to wait a year before ttc so its still about a year and a half away. any advice or thoughts on this? thanks
p.s. Ihave also never held a baby either. people have offered but I decline because I’m afraid I’m going to drop it.
Post # 3
Spend time with babies. Lots of time, lots of different babies.
I’m an only child too, but I went in the opposite direction of you – I’m obsessed with babies and will take any opportunity to hold or play with one. That girl staring at your baby and making funny faces in the grocery check-out line? That’s me. Case in point, yesterday I went to drop off a meal for a coworker who just had a baby girl. She handed her to me right away, and I held her so long my supporting arm fell asleep – still didn’t want to give her back.
Start off by sitting down when you’re holding a baby; you’ll be less afraid of dropping it. Odds are the mom or dad will be right there, so ask for advice on how to hold the baby – babies like being held in different ways depending on how old they are. If any of your friends/relatives have babies, ask to hang out with them for a few hours. The more time you spend around babies, the more comfortable you’ll be 🙂
Post # 4
@wishingonadream04: When you hold a baby for the first time you will realize that they are WAY more durable than they look 😉
I’ve been around lots of kids and babies, but when a coworker of mine (who became a good friend) invited me to the hospital to meet her brand new baby, I was terrified to hold her! She was less than 24 hours old, and sooo tiny. Seriously though, as soon as she was passed to me, I was in love. They may be small but they are far less fragile than you might think! You just need to try not to overthink it 🙂
Not having a lot of baby experience will NOT make you a terrible mom, please don’t think that way! It is a learning process.
Post # 5
Well you do not HAVE to have babies you know! It’s not like a law or anything!
I also had virtually no experience with babies when I had my daughter. To make matters worse, she was born with severe medical problems. I did not enjoy Motherhood at all. That’s not to say that I didn’t love my daughter. I loved her more than anyone else on the planet and I mourn her death still (she died as a young adult). But there was a reason why I didn’t have any more children. Many women do indeed love being Mothers. I was not one of them.
Post # 6
@wishingonadream04: having previous experience with children does not necessarily effect whether you’ll be a good mother. You will love any baby you have, and you’ll want what’s best for that baby. You’ll be fine.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies. Unfortunately I don’t have many close friends andthe ones I do have don’t have kiss. Quite a few of his friends have kiss but they never bring them when we all get together probably because its only adults even though is not expressly said not to bring the kids. Perhaps sometime we can go over to their house and seed.the kids although I neverbeen to any of their houses. everything us usually at my fiances house (hestill livesathome). You ladies are awesome I knew I would find some great advice here.
Post # 8
I’m not an only child.
I babysat growing up.
I spent a TON of time helping my sis with her children (who are 10, 8 and 6 now).
A bunch of my friends already have kids.
I’m still terrified of kids, but I have faith that when I get pregnant, I’ll have a good 9 months to read up on it and prepare and I’ll have a husband who will help me through it and that I will love my own child, once I have one. Or two. I think 2. 🙂
You’re not alone!
Post # 9
I know some women who have never been around babies and were terrified of babies and when they had children of their own, it seemed to come naturally for them. Don’t stress too much, deep down, I think we all have the instinct that kicks in when your own kids are involved.
Post # 10
Don’t worry about it now. When you have a baby (IF you want one), you’ll figure it out. I doubt you’ll be as afraid of your own baby, because it’s yours.
Post # 11
pretty sure we’re the same person, haha. both my husband and i are only children and really don’t like babies or kids at all. i also had never held a baby for more than a couple of minutes and never really wanted to. HOWEVER, my son is now 6 months old and, trust me, it’s different when it’s your own. i wouldn’t say i like babies or kids still, but i like MY baby. it comes naturally 🙂