(Closed) terrified of babies

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Spend time with babies.  Lots of time, lots of different babies.  

 

I’m an only child too, but I went in the opposite direction of you – I’m obsessed with babies and will take any opportunity to hold or play with one.  That girl staring at your baby and making funny faces in the grocery check-out line?  That’s me.  Case in point, yesterday I went to drop off a meal for a coworker who just had a baby girl.  She handed her to me right away, and I held her so long my supporting arm fell asleep – still didn’t want to give her back.

 

Start off by sitting down when you’re holding a baby; you’ll be less afraid of dropping it.  Odds are the mom or dad will be right there, so ask for advice on how to hold the baby – babies like being held in different ways depending on how old they are.  If any of your friends/relatives have babies, ask to hang out with them for a few hours.  The more time you spend around babies, the more comfortable you’ll be πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@wishingonadream04:  When you hold a baby for the first time you will realize that they are WAY more durable than they look πŸ˜‰

I’ve been around lots of kids and babies, but when a coworker of mine (who became a good friend) invited me to the hospital to meet her brand new baby, I was terrified to hold her! She was less than 24 hours old, and sooo tiny. Seriously though, as soon as she was passed to me, I was in love. They may be small but they are far less fragile than you might think! You just need to try not to overthink it πŸ™‚

Not having a lot of baby experience will NOT make you a terrible mom, please don’t think that way!  It is a learning process.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well you do not HAVE to have babies you know! It’s not like a law or anything!

I also had virtually no experience with babies when I had my daughter. To make matters worse, she was born with severe medical problems. I did not enjoy Motherhood at all. That’s not to say that I didn’t love my daughter. I loved her more than anyone else on the planet and I mourn her death still (she died as a young adult). But there was a reason why I didn’t have any more children. Many women do indeed love being Mothers. I was not one of them.

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@wishingonadream04:  having previous experience with children does not necessarily effect whether you’ll be a good mother. You will love any baby you have, and you’ll want what’s best for that baby. You’ll be fine. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m not an only child.

I babysat growing up.

I spent a TON of time helping my sis with her children (who are 10, 8 and 6 now).

A bunch of my friends already have kids.

I’m still terrified of kids, but I have faith that when I get pregnant, I’ll have a good 9 months to read up on it and prepare and I’ll have a husband who will help me through it and that I will love my own child, once I have one.  Or two.  I think 2.  πŸ™‚

You’re not alone!

Post # 9
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I know some women who have never been around babies and were terrified of babies and when they had children of their own, it seemed to come naturally for them. Don’t stress too much, deep down, I think we all have the instinct that kicks in when your own kids are involved. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t worry about it now. When you have a baby (IF you want one), you’ll figure it out. I doubt you’ll be as afraid of your own baby, because it’s yours.

Post # 11
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

pretty sure we’re the same person, haha. both my husband and i are only children and really don’t like babies or kids at all. i also had never held a baby for more than a couple of minutes and never really wanted to. HOWEVER, my son is now 6 months old and, trust me, it’s different when it’s your own. i wouldn’t say i like babies or kids still, but i like MY baby. it comes naturally πŸ™‚

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