- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I’m a regular poster, but going to another account for this question.
Backstory: Several months ago I called my OBGYN’s office because I figured out I would be on my period during my wedding day/honeymoon. I’m on Ortho Tri-Cyclin Lo. The person I spoke to (not the doctor) said just take the hormone pills straight through and I’d be fine. I did this, and I had what I thought was just some break through bleeding for 4-5 days during my cycle (I was told this was normal).
Evidently the person I spoke with was NOT qualified to give out medical advice, and was not my OBGYN’s nurse. Tricyclics cannot be taken this way… it makes them ineffective.
On the doctor’s advice (who was SUPER pissed that this had happened) I am stopping the pill and then re-starting Sunday, in the hopes that I have a period before then and avoid having one during the honeymoon. Still may not work.
My wedding is in 10 days. Both Fiance and I are virgins and are not experienced condom users (we’ve only ever used one when we were fooling around just for easy clean-up’s sake, not for protection) and my protection from the pill is basically none at this point.
I am not at a point in my life where I can support a child… neither of us are. I am pre-existing health conditions that need to be cleared before I can safely have one, and we are both living on school loans and in demanding professional schools. Because of our beliefs, abortion isn’t an option in case pregnancy did occur.
Will using condoms only be enough? We will need to continue to use them for the next month or so before the pill becomes fully effective again.
My OBGYN stressed that the pill, because of the screwy way I have been taking it, and then stopping it for a week, will NOT decrease my chances of conceiving.
Does anyone have any ideas to increase our protection? I thought of spermicide, but that’s it…
I’m scared and really really disappointed. I feel like the specialness of my first time with my new husband is being stripped away. I’m worried that during the entire honeymoon we both will be so paranoid that we won’t fully enjoy it.