(Closed) Terrified of giving birth…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Are/were you terrified of giving birth?
    I am terrified of the idea (no kids yet) : (110 votes)
    55 %
    I was terrified but it wasn't as bad as I imagined : (15 votes)
    8 %
    I wasn't terrified and it was worse than I imagined : (7 votes)
    4 %
    I was terrified and it was worse than I imagined : (9 votes)
    5 %
    I'm not scared, we were made for this : (45 votes)
    23 %
    I have a different opinion : (10 votes)
    5 %
    I wasn't terrified and it wasn't as bad as I imagined : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 32
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    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I was scared and I found the pain to be worse than I imagined. But I’m talking the labour pain and contractions. My epidural kept wearing off, the pain sucked. I ended in C-Section though, I think I would have freaked if I had to continue on vaginally.

    Post # 33
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    1401 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I wasn’t scared, and the pain was worse than I thought it would be. I was actually (no joke) delirious at one point–I hadn’t slept and had been vomiting all night with pain from contractions, and would go into a muddle in between contractions. Darling Husband said it was terrifying to watch. 

    As someone who wasn’t keen on drugs, I can say with total confidence that getting an epidural at 29 hours in was the best decision I ever made. 

    Post # 34
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    1837 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i’m scared & def think the pain is going to be horrible, but if everyone else can do it why can’t i?

    pretty sure the end result will be worth it 🙂

    Post # 35
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    773 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

    I’m scared of the birth too (not even pregnant yet). I intent to make sure it’s in an excellent hospital with all the modern drugs, medicial equipment and well qualified doctors I could need. That way I hope it will be as safe as possible for me and future baby. 

    Post # 36
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    1732 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I was somewhat nervous about it before we started trying and when I first found out I was pregnant, but the more research I do, birth videos I watch, and things I learn, the more confident I feel. Birth classes helped a TON to be informed and comfortable with the process. I’m 31 weeks pregnant now and actually sort of excited about the whole thing. I’m hoping for a natural or at least low intervention birth, and I’m hoping that a positive attitude about it will help yield a positive experience – because I do think that completely plays a part! There’s still some fear of the unknown, but overall I’m so excited to meet my son, and I feel so confident about my birth plan that I’m looking forward to it.

    Post # 37
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    2807 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    i’ve always said that i’m not afraid of raising children and being a parent. but i’m absolutely terrified of the whole “pushing a baby out of my body” part. the fact that a 6+ pound creature has to get pushed out of a hole that is normally the size of a quarter? unnatural.

    Post # 38
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    4430 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Agree with those who talk about dying during or because of labor.  Uhk.  

    I’m scared my heart isn’t strong enough and all this other crap but

    im pregnant so I’ll have to suck it up.  I literally can’t feel 100% excited because I’m scared I won’t be around to enjoy our baby or something will happen prior to birth.  It’s weird.  Some days I’m great and optimistic and other times I’m full of dread!  

    Post # 39
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    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m not scared of giving birth; I mean, of course there is so much that can go wrong but the actual thought of having a baby has never scared me. I’m not pregnant yet, though, so my tune may change later on.

    Post # 40
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    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m not afraid to give birth. I accept that it will be the most painful, exhausting experience of my life, with the greatest reward when its over! I’m looking forward to it. I am healthy and I am taking measures to promote the best possible outcome for my baby and myself. 

    Post # 41
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    i’m more terrified of the part about now having a baby that you have to take home with you and take care of. i don’t know how i’m going to get any sleep, because i’m terrified that something will happen to the baby if i do.

    Post # 42
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    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m almost 10 weeks pregnant, and I still haven’t started fully associating what’s going on now with something that will need to come out in 7 months’ time. I’ve done some research, but I’m still convinced I can arrange for a stork to drop it off or something. I do know that I’m 100% in the camp of pain management to whatever extent is safe for me and baby. 

    Post # 43
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m not scare of giving birth. I used to be but reading Ina May Gaskin’s book with all of her positive stories definitely helped. I picked “we were made for this” because we were! 🙂 I also strongly believe in thinking positively so I know being terrified will only hinder me in the delivery room. Happy thoughts!

    Post # 44
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    What helped me to not fear childbirth was to remind myself that most women the world over will do it at least once; if pretty much everyone is doing it, it just can’t be that bad.  It also helped to read up on the stages of labor so I’d know what to expect and when, and to have a plan in place for how I wanted to cope with the pain. 

    Post # 45
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    894 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @MsGinkgo:  I am almost 34 weeks pregnant and I can tell you that “Let’s get this over with” does happen. I’ve never been afraid of giving birth, in fact I am very happy that I’ll get to experience it, but I have recently started getting this desire to have it happen, it’s like my body is telling me it’s almost time now.

    Post # 46
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    4581 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wasn’t afraid at all of childbirth. We were built to do it and going into it with fear will just make it so much worse.

    I had a natural birth and it was about what I expected – uncomfortable during contractions, quite painful during transition but overall bearable.

    ETA: I second the recommendation of Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. Great read!

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