Post # 1
So, I’m brand new pregnant. Like, 4 weeks today brand new. And I keep thinking about all of the wonderful women on here who have either miscarried or had stillbirths, and some post further down where the overwhelming consensus was “someone has to make up the bad numbers.”
And for example, this morning, I feel better now than I felt before going to bed last night, so I start to worry that something is wrong.
OBVIOUSLY this isn’t healthy, but is it normal? How do you stop thinking this way? It’s just that Darling Husband and I want this little bean SO MUCH, it’s sort of terrifying.
Post # 3
I don’t know how to stop thinking that way, but I do know that it is completely normal to be scared.
Post # 4
Stress is not going to help hun. Not at all… Have you had it confirmed by the doctor? have you started to set up OB appointments? Bring these concerns up with your doctor, that is what they are there for.
Post # 5
@StormyRose: My appointment for confirmation is on Wednesday, although, I’m not particularly worried that there’s not something in there, just that he won’t stay. I’m trying to resist the urge to pee on some more tests, but I think that’s going to be a losing battle.
This is probably a case of some too aggressive internet searching! Someone’s pregnancy tip in the other sticky thread was to let your Darling Husband do the googling for you, and I’m starting to see why that’s very, VERY good advice.
Post # 6
You’re not alone. I’m starting to finally calm down a bit when we saw the heartbeat. We’re 7 weeks. I found out when I was like 3w4d or something nuts like that. I felt the same way as you and still worry on a good day. So, it’s normal. But, there’s absolutely nothing you can do to control if you’re going to miscarry or not. Stress and worry however are proven to be bad for the baby, and optimism/positive thinking is good. So I try to just be positive and know that aside from taking care of myself, there’s nothing I can do to stop nature from taking it’s course. I didn’t like that post either about someone having to make up the bad numbers. Of course it’s true and for people who have had the terrible things happen to them, I can understand why they feel that way. I just am trying to tell myself, someone also has to make up the good numbers, which are much higher than the bad ones anyway. Let’s just hope and pray that for us, we get lucky and land on the good side of the statistics.
Post # 7
Congratulations!!! So happy for you!! Stop reading worst case scenarios. Relax and enjoy. Most people have happy healthy babies.
Post # 8
@Quietserenity: I deal with it on an almost daily basis but you have to calm down. I have been having a rough pregnancy and I am terrified that they are going to put me on bedrest soon. I have been passing kidney stones the past few weeks and thought I was in pre-term labor to start off. The more you stress the more strain you are putting on your body. Start thinking of baby names, how you want to decorate the nursery, anything to take your mind off of the negative.
Post # 9
I know exactly how you feel. I felt the same way when I found out, even after our first apt I was terrified that I would miscarry. But like others have said, there is nothing you can do to prevent it. Just try your best to relax and take care of yourself. I also felt like you did with your symptons. I had very few to begin with, but for a little while even those went away and I was afraid that meant something was wrong. I even called the doctor to ask about it, they said that this early on that it’s normal for you symptons to sometimes go away, unless you’re having severe cramping or bleeding they told me I was fine. One thing I’ve learned so far in this process (I’m 18 wks now), is never feel bad for calling the doctor if you’re worried. I’ve called a few times and the nurses are fantastic – they re-assure me everything is fine and tell me to call anytime I’m concerned.
In the meantime, I would stay away from google – there’s too many bad things that can pop up that will only make you worry more, instead of making you feel better.
I hope this helps! Just know you’re not alone in feeling like you do and everyone on her will offer any support you need!
Post # 10
I’m not pg and haven’t been but I do understand your fear, it is one of mine when we do conceive. I think the best thing to do is not stress about it. At this point there isn’t anything that you can do other than calm down (or pee on a million sticks!). Take a relaxing bath or go get a massage but I do know stress=not good. I’m hoping the best for you! Post up after your appointment on Wednesday!
Oh and CONGRATULATIONS! and I’m banning you from google and WebMD.!
Post # 11
Congratulations! I think it is totally normal to feel nervous and scared…especially in the beginning. Early on on my pregnancy (about 5 weeks or so) I began spotting and my hormone levels were not doubling the way my doc expected. I was convinced I was going to have MC. I was also VERY sick with the flu…it was a bad week. Ultimately, I just kept telling myself that it was something I couldn’t control. I just needed to rest and relax and accept whatever came my way. And I continually talked to my baby bean and told him how much we wanted him. We had 3 u/s in about a week and finally decided we would have to wait until our scheduled 8 week u/s to see what was going on. It was such a relief to see that little heartbeat then!
Post # 12
I am not pregnant (yet!!), but I completely understand your fears. Hanging out here and on the bump (I know, I know… the b*tchiness is hard to handle, but there is so much more baby traffic over there) I see so many sad stories about loss and infertility that it has definitely made me more nervous about TTC and pregnancy.
When I feel this way, I try to remind myself that you are looking at a small percentage of the population when you look at internet message boards… the risk for m/c is actually quite small if you have no past experiences or risk factors, but of course women who have trouble TTC or carrying pregnancies to term are more likely to seek understanding and compassion on boards. So just remember that (a) you are very likley to have a happy and healthy 9 months, and (b) if, god forbid, something were to happen, you already have a built-in community right here of warmth, compassion, and love.
Post # 13
it is totally normal. The best you can do is remind yourself that the chances are everything will be fine – and if they are not, there is nothing you can do about it. Take care of yourself, try to enjoy this time (because if there is a next time around you won’t be able to just relax into the pregnancy with a little one running around!)
and I agree with the PP, don’t look up every little thing, try your very best to enjoy!
Post # 14
Completely normal, even before I lost Moose.
Post # 15
I’m not even pregnant and I worry about this ALL the time.
I think it’s completely normal.
Try to do something to take your mind off things. *hugs*
Post # 16
Thanks you guys. I had some breakfast (which made me feel considerably better), and spent some time looking at nursery stuff, but all of you guys helped to put it in some perspective.
You’re right, all I can do is do everything in my power to keep the baby healthy, and that’s about all I have control over. 🙂 Thank you so much for your understanding and compassion! Made me feel like not quite so much of a Looney Toon.
So, that being said, how cute is this?