(Closed) Test alone or with DH?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I always think it’s better to test alone and then find a cute way to surprise him if it’s positive. Since your Darling Husband has a strong opinion about being there for the results, that’s what you should do.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would personally like to be able to digest the information alone first, but since your guy really wants to be there I’d say let him. It’s sweet he wants to be a part of it. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s great for the guy to be there! It’s his baby too! I purposefully waited until my period was late, so I really thought I was pregnant. When I tested, I peed on the stick and didn’t look and set it on the counter and washed my hands and got him, then we went in and I let him read it!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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LaPetiote:  I think it’s lovely that he wants to know at the same time as you. It makes sense that the other parent would want to have the same experience at the same time as much as possible. If Darling Husband and I were TTC I think he’d want to be there when I tested. Knowing him including the peeing part but I might put my foot down for that bit!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I always wanted to test alone so I could process it alone, but the month we got our bfp (after fertility treatment) my Darling Husband insisted on being there for the result. He saw it first and i didn’t believe him! He was so excited and I’m glad he got to be there for that and experience it with me. I definitely understand wanting to be alone, but if it’s important to him, let him be there to support you either way. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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LaPetiote:  my Darling Husband  is the same way!! We’ve only been trying since August, but it is also really important to him that he is there. He usually takes the stick after I pee on it so he can be the first to see. It’s kinda cute not gonna lie 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I always tested alone but if my husband really wanted to be there then of course I’d test with him.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

This is his experience too and if he is asking to be there I think you should honor that over needing a cute way to tell him you are pregnant.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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LaPetiote:  I peed on it myself, dawdled in the bathroom for two minutes (it was first thing in the morning and my husband was asleep), saw the BFP and ran straight out to show him. Nothing cutesy here. I’d taken a couple tests that were BFN and either didn’t tell him I’d tested or just told him I’d tested with no luck. I’ll probably do the same next time we TTC.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

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LaPetiote:  A lot of guys don’t understand that a second line, no matter how faint, is a positive test. I also just like the idea of finding a cute way to tell them. I think it could also be really defeating for a guy to see negative pregnancy tests over and over if the process takes a long time.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Since your husband wants to be there, let him be there.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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LaPetiote:  Mine was. He wanted us both to find out at the same time, so we did (well, the first time). With my first pregnancy, I took the test and waited in our room and we looked together. That pregnancy did end in a MC. The second time, I took and knew it would be positive (plus it started forming even before I had finished up) and put it on his desk to see. He found out about 10 seconds after me, but I knew since I felt pretty much the same way I had the first pregnancy. I thought it was sweet he wanted to know together. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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LaPetiote:  Darling Husband was in the other room, he knew I was testing, and I just yelled for him when I had the result!

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