- Mrs. Harmony
- 6 years ago
My boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer last Friday the 13th (!) and he will need his left testicle removed. Many things will follow, including a full body scan and probably chemotherapy.
The Dr. said there is a possiblilty of infertility, because many men who are sterile will develop this cancer. Not saying that cancer leads to this, but infertility and cancer are related. My boyfriend was devastated. He’s been a zombie for 2 days, and he is in enormous pain because his boys have swelled up to the size of a grapefruit. He can’t sleep, walk, or even think.
This guy was 5’8″, 155 lb, very muscular, energetic and sooo healthy. We went running together all summer and fall. It’s amazing that something like this could happen
But… he is expected to survive. I am totally fine with not having any kids with him. I told him I will stay with him no matter what, and we can adopt a couple of kids if we need to. I never never never EVER thought I could give this up for a man. I always dreamed of having 2 kids naturally. I may have to be happy with my awesome 5 year old son instead, and then adopt a set of siblings or something.
I love him so much that he is worth it all. I am in a very happy place because of this revelation. Sometimes you don’t know how much you love someone until you are tested.
I am dying to marry him. He made it apparent that he will be proposing to me “very soon”, and he will be focusing on getting better first. For the first time, I can put the engagement on the back burner for as long as it’s needed. I can wait for this!
If you read my previous posts, you would see that I am scared of being a waiting bee too long due to my biological clock. Now it seems my bio clock may not matter at all. And I am fine with it! I don’t get why suddenly me having another child naturally is far less important than it was say, a month ago.
I hope my perspective helps the waiting bees. xoxox