Post # 1
Well, I did it. I called my doctor and made an appointment for Wednesday to start medical intervention/testing to see why my Darling Husband and I haven’t concieved yet. Technically we’re still under a year, but as I’m 30 and Darling Husband is 32, I’m fudging the last three months of our 1 year mark to get us in. I’m scared, excited and mostly weepy about having to see my doctor about this. I thought it would be so easy to get pregnant (damn you, sex ed.) and that I would be happily preggo by this point. I don’t know what the appointment is going to look like, so any suggestions or advice going into this?
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
debinoxford: Aw crap. I’m sorry. It’s just not fun.
Have you been charting, taking OPKs, temping, checking cervical fluid, weighing yourself all that jazz? If not, no big deal as it doesn’t tell you everything…. but it CAN give you a cache of biological information so to speak to present to your MD.
- tracking and seeing a short luteal phase would tell you low progesterone
- BBT readings will tell you if you have an LH surge
- your CM can be an indicator of issues
- tracking your weight (BMI is a huge issue for fertility)
Tell your doctor of exercise, meds you are taking and be prepared for tons of family medical history questions.
then again, it could just be your husband, in that case, there are things they can do!
Post # 3
debinoxford: This TTC lark is bloody tough. For what it’s worth I think you’re right getting testing done.
Order in which I did testing:
1. Day 3 and 21 bloods, ThYroid
4. HSG, ultrasound
Next, Darling Husband is going to get another SA and look into DNA fragmentation
We’re now at cycle 13 doing clomid, trigger and timed intercourse.
My advice. Don’t let your doctor say that you are worrying unnecessarily. Your feelings are valid and have every right to make sure all is ok with both you and Darling Husband. Time is on your side and they will tell you that. But, as we both know TTC is bloody stressful and it’s good to go about getting answers now. Best of luck with your apt.
Post # 4
Thanks ladies! I’ve been tracking CM, BBT and been exercising more and eating better to lose weight. I’ve lost 10 pounds so far, still have about 30 to go before I’m in a better place. I don’t do OPKs because they are so freaking expensive here and I have a clear temp shift, so I’m not too worried about that. I had a 11-12 day luteal phase but since I started taking B-complex I’ve now got a 14 day luteal phase.
Post # 5
debinoxford: I’m not reading any other comments b/c I’m REALLY scared. I’m 36, nearly 37 and I’ve never been pregnant. My gf’s tell me I have time but they have at least 1, mostly 2. We just married in Oct but things have been soooooo stressful. Just in the last few weeks I feel like things have calmed down a bit (his ex and family have been nightmares + me starting a new job + going back to school) so I’m grateful, BUT my age still whispers in my ear. So while to some it may not be a “perfect” time, I feel like we should at least take action. Today, I bought an ovulation kit. Later this month I have a pre-conception counseling appt with another dr b/c I didn’t love the first one. I’m going to look into the health of my ovarian reserves. And I’ve started prenatals in case my diet isn’t giving me everything I need. I just want to make myself as healthy as possible.
I just wanted to say I feel your anxiety.
Post # 6
I’m 32 and I made RE appt after 7 cycles. We had testing during our 8th cycle. We found we have a few small issues between us.
Though after discussing our results and options, we decided to give it a few more natural cycles before iui.
Our re did not care that it hasn’t been the year mark for us. But we were glad to at least get started and find we didn’t have bigger issues.
Good luck with your appt and I hope you are able to find the answers you need.
Post # 7
Well, I had my appointment today. Doctor said that it doesn’t look like there’s any problems, so we are moving forward with testing. I missed CD3 bloodwork this cycle, so I’ll do that next month. Got paperwork to do CD19 bloodwork (normally CD21, but since my cycle is only 25 days, she bumped it up) and the stuff for Darling Husband to do his SA sample at home and I can drop it off at the office that same day. I figured this was what was going to happen, so it feels good to get it started. After the bloodwork and SA results, we’ll look at those and if nothing has shown up and no BFP within the next six months, we’ll get referred to an RE and do the ultrasound and whatever else they do to check me out. Thanks for all the support ladies and I feel so much better knowing about all this stuff before I went to see my doctor. There wasn’t anything I didn’t understand or expect. FX for us and all of you in the same boat.
Post # 8
debinoxford: I’m glad to hear your appointment went well and your Doctor was onboard for testing. I hope you get your BFP before you have to go to the next step.
Post # 9
debinoxford: great to hear! Last month i went to my doctor and got bloodwork and an ultrasound done. If I am not pregnant by August we are going to start all the testing with a specialist.