- 9 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’ve had like 15 bees PM for this so I’m just going to post it so that anyone that wants to use it can. It’s text for a non-religious ceremony that should last about 45 minutes, depending upon the length of the individualized vows. Fiance and I put this together and I know how daunting it can be, so I hope this helps my fellow bees!
I guess, while it’s up, if anyone sees a flaw, let me know!
Wedding Party enter in pairs
Music changes to bridal march
BRIDE is escorted in
Music stops briefly then continues (low volume) throughout ceremony
OFFICIANT:“Dear family and friends, we have gathered here today to celebrate the wedding of GROOM and BRIDE.”
“You come here today as individuals. You come to become one — of course not to lose yourselves, but instead to promise a new life of unity and love.”
“Marriage is the promise of hope between two people who love each other sincerely, who honor each other as individuals, and who wish to unite their lives and share the future together. In this ceremony, GROOM and BRIDE dedicate themselves to the happiness and well-being of each other, in the new life they now undertake.”
“We rejoice with them that out of all the world they have found each other; and that they will henceforth find the deeper meaning and richness of human life in sharing it with each other.”
OFFICIANT: [To parents]“The values, traditions and hopes this couple represent have been nurtured by their family and parents, the parents of GROOM and BRIDE, who have loved and nurtured them, have bestowed their blessings upon this union and their new family.”
OFFICIANT: “On this happy day, surrounded by friends and family, we also honor those family members and friends who are no longer with us, especially the grandparents of GROOM and BRIDE. Let us pause for a moment and bring those who are no longer with us into our thoughts and into our hearts.”
“GROOM and BRIDE have chosen this short reading in honor of their wedding, as they feel it expresses their feelings towards each other;
From “The Hungering Dark” – Frederick Buechner “Matrimony is called holy, because this brave and fateful promise of a man and a woman, to love and honor and serve each other through thick and thin, looks beyond itself to more fateful promises still, and speaks mightily of what human life at its most human and most alive and most holy must always be. Every wedding is a dream, and every word that is spoken there means more than it says, and every gesture – the clasping of hands, the giving of rings – is rich with mystery. And so we hope with every bride and groom, that the love they bear one another, and the joy they take in one another, may help them grow in love for this whole world where their final joy lies.”
OFFICIANT: The Hands Ceremony
“GROOM and BRIDE, please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes to you. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will join your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it, support and encouragement to pursue your dreams, and comfort through difficult times.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.”
OFFICIANT: “GROOM, are you ready to enter into this marriage with BRIDE, believing the love you share and your faith in each other will endure all things?”
GROOM: “I am.”
OFFICIANT: “BRIDE, are you ready to enter into this marriage with GROOM, believing the love you share and your faith in each other will endure all things?”
BRIDE: “I am.”
OFFICIANT: “Will you please join your hands.”
“GROOM and BRIDE would like to share a few words with one another as they enter into this new phase of their lives together.”
Read handwritten vows.
Read handwritten vows.
OFFICIANT: “Thank you for sharing your love with one another in the presence of your friends and family. No other human ties are more tender and no other vows more important than those you are about to take. Both of you come to this day with the deep realization that the contract of marriage is sacred as are all of its obligations and responsibilities”.
“GROOM, Please repeat after me.”
GROOM & OFFICIANT:
“In the presence of these witnesses, I, GROOM, take you, BRIDE, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, as long as we both shall live. We shall keep together what share of trouble and sorrow our lives may lay upon us, and we shall hold together our store of goodness and plenty and love.”
“BRIDE, please repeat after me.”
OFFICIANT & BRIDE:“In the presence of these witnesses, I, BRIDE, take you, GROOM, to be my husband; to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, as long as we both shall live. We shall keep together what share of trouble and sorrow our lives may lay upon us, and we shall hold together our store of goodness and plenty and love.”
OFFICIANT: “It is customary to exchange rings as a symbol of love, and remembrance of the promises that you have just made.
[OFFICIANT receives rings from Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor. Then hands ring to GROOM
.](GROOM offers ring to BRIDE)
“BRIDE, do you receive this ring in honor of these vows?”
(GROOM places ring on BRIDE’S finger)
GROOM:“BRIDE, this ring I give to you, in pledge of my love and devotion.”
[OFFICIANT hands ring to BRIDE.]
“GROOM, do you receive this ring in honor of these vows?”
(BRIDE places ring on GROOM’S finger)
BRIDE:“GROOM, this ring I give to you, in pledge of my love and devotion.”
“As the rings have no end so your love should have no end.”
“GROOM and BRIDE, I would ask that you both remember to treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourself often of what brought you together today. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage – as they do to every relationship at one time or another – focus on what still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for a moment, you can remember that the sun is still there. And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.”
“May the confidence, trust, and affection you have for each other on this day, sustain you as you go forth upon your journey of life together. May you dwell together in peace, true friendship, love, and joy.”
[Couple face the guests]
“For as much as GROOM and BRIDE have consented together to join their lives in the bonds of matrimony, and have witnessed the same before this company of family and friends, and have pledged their love and loyalty to each other, and have declared the same by the joining and the giving of rings, I, therefore, pronounce that they are husband and wife. You may now kiss the bride.”
OFFICIANT:I now have the great pleasure to present to you, Mr. and Mrs. GROOM..