(Closed) text message break-up?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
288 posts
Helper bee

@atlbride2013:  ugh.  so sorry to read this.  See, this is the sort of thing I myself want to totally avoid.  Bridesmaids can be really stressful at times, when it’s supposed to be nothing but a joyous occasion.  Please try to not let it bother you too much.  If she contacts you, she does.  If not, her loss. 

Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You need to suck it up and call her.  No two ways about it.

Post # 5
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ixnay on the text message. Call her.

Post # 6
3942 posts
Honey bee

That situation sucks, but I wouldn’t do that via text.

Just out of curiousity, are you in her bridal party?

Post # 7
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

Give her until tomorrow then call her. Do not text that – it is a friendship breaker.

Post # 8
4311 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just call & say “Hey! How are you feeling about our talk?”

Post # 9
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Can you call her and at least let her know that way? Texting that may straight up ruin the friendship. (unless you’re okay with that?)

This is a sucky situation in general, I’m sorry you’re stuck going through it!

Post # 10
805 posts
Busy bee

That sounds really frustrating. I’ve recently given up with a friend because she never responds to anything at all so I can’t imagine how difficult it must be if she’s your bm. I’d give her a few more days and then ring a couple of times and if she doesn’t pick up then send a text.

Post # 11
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree with PP’s and would call her. Also, if you do most of your communication through text messaging it could be that she simply isn’t the kind of person to text. I don’t know her, but I have some friends who almost refuse to text and only want to discuss things over the phone, whereas I would personally prefer to discuss everything over text and never call people. So you might have two different communication styles, but if you want answers you might have to be the one to call her.

Post # 12
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this frustrating situation.  I would say you need to pick up the phone and give her a call though.  A text message may not be the right way to go about this.

Post # 15
4415 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m thinking if I was her … I’d see you were calling, know why you were calling, not want to talk about it, and ignore the call. And I’d tell myself “ugh, I REALLY need to call her back” but then I’d delay for days and days and days because it’s just not a conversation I’d want to have (assuming she wants to drop out).


So … what I would do is text her something like “have you thought about our conversation? When is a good time to call and discuss it?” Then you open the door for her to just text back “yeah I thought about it and I think I’m out,” or for her to give a good time to call when you’ll actually get hold of her. Sort of a middle route for people who (like me) greatly prefer to text, especially about unpleasant things that will lead into an ugly quagmire of a conversation.

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