Post # 1
My fiancé would rather pick up the phone and call me. I feel I have my best conversations by text.
We live in a rural area with spotty service so I feel like half the conversation is “can you hear me?” And the other half is repeating myself. And really after spending 8-10 hours a day answering the 5 phone office lines and 2 mobile phones, the last thing I want to do is answer the phone when I get off.
Ironically I just googled this and every article was “how to get my man to call instead of text?” Of course my luck… I find one that wants to chit chat on the phone.
How is it in your relationship? Do you mostly text or talk? Do you both agree on the conversation method or is it a source of contention?
Post # 2
penny1403 : When we first started dating we would text and usually just talk on the phone when he would drunk dial me 🙂 But, we also worked together so we’d get to have conversations in person throughout the day.
Now, we’re married and have lived together for a decent amount of time and still work together so we don’t really use our cell phones to communicate much but we mainly stick to texting when we’re apart and need to communicate, unless one of us is traveling we usually try to have a phone conversation each night before bed.
I think if I was dating someone and we didn’t see each other everyday, I would prefer to have a phone conversation. I think texting is great for making plans, or “hey can you pick this up on the way home” type stuff but a full blown conversation over text can annoy me.
ETA- the spotty service and difficulty of having a conversation would be pretty frustrating, so I get where you’re coming from.
Post # 3
penny1403 : Do you live together?
Darling Husband and I don’t speak on the phone much at all since we live together, however when we do I will text if I don’t expect an answer (ie. can you please buy milk on your way home) but if we need to make plans or something I will always call. I hate texting, I’m not very good at it and always end up with typos and it takes so long. It would really annoy me if my Darling Husband tried to get me to text instead, however I do see your point of the spotty service being a pain.
Is there another provider that would give you better service? Or do you have a decent internet connection where you could speak over something like skype instead?
Post # 4
I always prefer text. Most of the time he texts but if it’s going to be more than a couple of texts back-and-forth he prefers to call.
Post # 5
We have always mainly communicated via text, but will call if it’s something important or easier comminuted by a quick phone call.
Post # 6
Same thing with me! My fiance loves to call and I love to text. In the beginning of our relationship we talked on the phone every day. How long have you been together? The more time went by and the longer we lived together we do more texting now since we see each other every day. We’ll talk on the phone more if he’s working nights (he’s a police officer) but during days it’s pretty much texting unless there’s something important that’s easier to discuss over the phone. He knows I prefer texting so he tries his best to do that more since I almost never call him lol. Although when he calls I’ll always answer and chat with him for a bit but not hour long conversations like it used to be.
Post # 7
Fiancé and I mainly communicate via text when we are apart (we live together). We generally only call the other if we want to discuss something time sensitive.
My boss and his wife communicate almost exclusively via FaceTime. It is creepy and annoying imo. I never want to FaceTime anyone!
Post # 8
My husband and I both hate talking on the phone. We would much rather text. However, he travels a lot for work so we video chat a couple times a week and I much prefer that to talking on the phone.
Post # 9
My husband hates to text. He said it’s just easier to call and when we first started dating it took me a while to get used to that because my ex preferred to text.
Post # 10
We used to be on the phone a lot, and still spend around an hour an evening talking when I’m traveling for work. Other than that though, we usually text him when we are apart unless it’s something important/time sensitive that would be difficult to explain via text.
Post # 11
We prefer texting, but whenever one of us is driving we call just for safety sake. I think there is a balance to be had. Assuming you guys text during the day, calling in the eve doesnt seem like a big deal.
Post # 12
We mostly call unless I’m working because he’s driving and it’s easier for him to talk on his Bluetooth.
Post # 13
We mostly gchat. I don’t have my phone during the day because of work so gchat is pretty much it. But I much prefer texting than calling.
Post # 14
To me texting is not a real conversation. I’d try to wait for a good time and place to talk so that the call isn’t constantly dropping. That said, if it’s informational or time sensitive, I’d text.
Post # 15
Hubby and I always text. Exceptions are if he’s working out of town and I want to hear his voice, and if it’s something extensive and/or important and a conversation is necessary. I hate talking on the phone.