Post # 1
I really appreciate the comments on here….I just turned 40 this year, my fiance is 11 years younger than I. It has been the cause of much stress for me, mostly due to my family. His family has been really supportive of our relationship form the beginning, my family thinks its a joke. I don’t look my age so most people would never guess there is an age difference. My family, of course, know how old I am and its is the only thing they’ve talked about since our engagement announcement. I am approach with 1. How old is he? 2.What does he do for a living? etc…My response is he is grown and works legally. I have been so stressed out this last month, I have even contemplated letting him go find someone closer to his age. My matron of honor yelled at me for even thinking it. I know this man loves me and I love him as well. After reading your comments…I feel so much better. Thank you for renewing my faith. Age has nothing to do with the quality of the person…..
Post # 3
Well said you. They’re obv coming from a place of concern, ultimately, but you’re old enough to know what you’re doing lol !!
Post # 4
Oh, for heaven’s sake! It’s not like he is under age.
I am 56. My wife is 15 years younger than me. However, we’ve been together for over 9 years, and love each other. I figure that everyone but the two of us can just stay out of that issue!
Post # 5
I’m so glad you’re feeling better! Stay strong! You love and relationship should eventually quiet the nay-sayers.
Post # 6
Next time someone ask, counter (as sweetly as you can) with “Why do you ask?”. It’s really nobody’s business, and really, someone should “nicely” tell them so. You are a grown woman, he is a grown man…it’s up to you and nobody else.
BTW, I had a friend (actually former boss) who is 43 and his wife to be is 59 (though you would never in a million years guess by looking at them that there was a difference). They both lost a couple of friends who just didn’t understand. I say those friends were not really friends! They ahve been together for over 10 years.
Post # 7
Thank you all for your comments.
Post # 8
Oh, hon, put that worry right out of your mind! It’s hard enough to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, without factoring age into it! I’m 47 and my groom is 38, and we couldn’t be happier. We feel and act (and most people say we look) the same age, we have the same dreams and values, and no one else’s judgment could possibly affect our decision to be together. Don’t you let anyone put a damper on the fact that you’ve found the love of your life!
Post # 9
@NotYourTypicalBride:Thank you for that comment, and congratulations on our upcoming nuptuals. The comments on this page have helped my confidence so much. I think I allowed the stress of what other thought cloud my happiness. I have changed now.