- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I am still recovering from my wedding and honeymoon, but I just want to say a big “THANK YOU!!!” to all you lovely bees! I haven’t posted as much as when I first signed up (except for the occasional desperate plea of, “Please help me with x or y or z”), but I am so grateful for having been a part of this community:)
I can honestly say, as cheeeeeeeesy as it sounds, that my *husband* and I had the time of our lives! I couldn’t have done it without the ‘bee:) I will be doing recaps and vendor reviews as soon as I receive my pro pics back (which I know will be awesome because our photographer is so awesome!). It’ll probably be in a month or so, but I’ll post on here and my blog. It IS possible to have an affordable wedding in a big city, so don’t get discouraged. It takes some researching, but it’s totally doable. We even had a six-piece band and a parade:)
- The ceremony. My sister was married 3 years ago and her priest married my husband and I. She said it was like watching a show. I loved our priest.
- Having the band begin to play outside of the square in front of our church immediately following the ceremony. It totally set the tone for the wedding. Fun!Fun!Fun!
- Parading from the church to the reception venue with our band playing New Orleans-type of music (It was a short walk—about 3 minutes, but so much fun!)
- Having the band continue to play during the cocktail hour.
- Having a photobooth. So.Much.Fun!! I love looking at our photobooth guestbook
- Having long rectangle tables. Everyone loved the intimacy of it. They said they felt like everywhere they turned, there was always someone to talk to.
- Having a family-style meal. More guest-interactive.
- Vodka bottles on the tables. My husband is Polish, so this was a must:)
- Dancing with our guests. Our DJ totally rocked the dance floor.
- Have a great time and be in a great mood. Tell yourself this starting a week from the wedding: “No matter what, I am going to have the best time and so are my guests. NOTHING will stop that.”
- Remember, your guests will follow your lead and they won’t know the details that are missing. Our DJ played the wrong version of our 1st dance song, but we let it go and had fun anyway.
- Seriously, don’t sweat the small stuff. Did things go wrong? Of course. Things are bound to go wrong, but everything will work itself out.
- Trust your gut instincts. I did with my vendors and I loved them all (save a few gliches)
- Prepare. Prepare. Prepare. This is coming from Little Miss Procrastinator. Accept help when offered and delegate when necessary. Most of all, do as much as you can in advance. DIYing invitations? Start a month or two before you think you need to. Oh, and do more instead of less (e.g. we did the bouquets ourselves and I wish I would have gotten more flowers for them. I never did a trial run and I underestimated what we needed. They looked fine, but we saved SO much money that it wouldn’t have hurt to have gotten more flowers)
- Have fun! Enjoy it! We had a loooooooong day (6:00AM Sat. – 2:00AM Sun.), but it was all worth it and went by so fast.
- Don’t worry about bucking tradition. Do what feels right for you both. No matter what anyone tells you. Again, go with your gut instinct. We nixed the bouquet toss and garter and no one noticed.
- Along those lines, I read on here that a wedding is not a time to prove a point. Great advice.
- Don’t take anything personally. I’ve read about some bees’ disappointment in friends and family declining. It’s not about you. They could either be going through relationship difficulty, having money issues or whatever. Don’t feel bad. Spoil the people who are able to make it and share in your day.
- Try to be as inclusive as possible, as long as it feels good for you. It’s your day as much as everyone else’s. We didn’t really have a theme except for everyone to have a really good time. Somehow, even if you don’t think of it as “your day” people make it about you anyway and everyone wants to make things extra special for you.