(Closed) Thank-you card debate, Please Help

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are Email thank-yous okay?
    Yes, if they are nice and personalized : (39 votes)
    21 %
    Yes, even if they are generic : (1 votes)
    1 %
    No, you should hand write them : (144 votes)
    78 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @ocrest12:  I’d be annoyed as a guest.  It also cost me a lot of time/money to select and purchase a gift/cheque and choose a card.  I think the least one can do is return literally less than 1% of that and take a minute to write me a note and buy a stamp.

    Post # 5
    Member
    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I personally don’t care either way. If I buy you a gift, all I ask is a thank you in any manner. I don’t see how just because it’s on  paper makes it a “better” thankyou than any other. I appreciate a hand written thank you, or something in the mail, but postage is expensive and weddings are often large, and I understand this.

    Instead of a generic e-mail thank you, maybe she could send out e-cards. I know there are still a lot of websites that allow you to for free.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t be bothered by it, I’d be grateful a thanks was shared.  But tbh I wouldn’t do this myself, I personally value giving handmade or at least hand written thank you notes.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think this depends on the generation. I found older people like grandparents etc prefer handwritten whereas a younger generation won’t exactly be waiting by the letterbox for the thank you to arrive. 

    Post # 8
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    3769 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I would be okay with an email invite as long as it was detailed and personalized… and I would value a personalized email over a generic handwritten note.  I’d prefer a personalized handwritten note though 🙂

    Post # 9
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    I was going to vote “no it should be handwritten” but then I honestly thought about it and I changed my mind to “as long as it’s personal and meaningful”. I mean, I can understand the budget pinch. And technology has come such a long way with what you can attach to an email? And really, the overall message would be the same whether it was written or typed… the words and sentiment would be the same. (Aaaand hey, they are saving paper?)

    I would totally not be upset to get a very thoughtftul email thank you.

    Post # 10
    Member
    11270 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i think if 110 people had the time to attend the wedding, the couple should make the time to write a personalized thank you for each guest.  i know that electronic thank yous are probably becoming more popular but i would still prefer a card.

    Post # 11
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    12247 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You can get 100 thank you cards at Jo Ann’s for like $10, (assuming 10 people RSVP no, that should be enough). $46 for postage is a little more, but It’s still less than $60. What is that in the grand scheme of the costs of a 110 person wedding?

    Just send the real thank-you notes. She should be sending them as she recieves each present, so it shouldn’t be too overwhelming. Also, they went to your wedding and bought you a gift, a thank you note is very little in return for the honor of their presence!

    Post # 12
    Member
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Handwritten… I just feel like that alone makes it more personal than any email.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I find email very impersonal so I would prefer a handwritten thank you card for the same reasons that others stated above.

    Post # 14
    Member
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    @SapphireSun:  +1

    I would appreciate the effort. I think a wedding deserves something more special than an email. I get tons of emails daily, but I don’t get handwritten notes very often.

    Post # 15
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    1257 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would be very upset if I went out and purchased something for you as a gift, took the time to come out and spend your day with you, and all I received was a email that you probably mass emailed to all guests.

    Post # 16
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    1466 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I sent post card invites, and post card thank yous. They were all personalized, but we did save quite a bit in stamps.

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