(Closed) Thank-you card debate, Please Help

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are Email thank-yous okay?
    Yes, if they are nice and personalized : (39 votes)
    21 %
    Yes, even if they are generic : (1 votes)
    1 %
    No, you should hand write them : (144 votes)
    78 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    1257 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013
    Post # 33
    Member
    1257 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @ocrest12:  I am sorry but as other PPs have said that a handwritten note means much more. I personally spend a nice amount of money on the brides and grooms of weddings I attend. I do not think that it is too much to ask for them to sit down and spend 2 minutes handwriting me a nice note and then putting a 40 some odd cent stamp on it. This is just my opinion.

    Post # 34
    Member
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Handwritten vista print always has great deal on living social and groupon. I got $76 coupon for $17. She should look out for those deals to save money

    Post # 35
    Member
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I’m not reading through the responses to see if this was already mentioned….but perhaps your friend can get some from the Dollar Store or something? When I came on here awhile ago and got eviscerated for complaining that my husband’s uncle complained that after 2 weeks of giving us their gift they still hadn’t received their thank you’s because we were about to get our personalized stationary from the printer, etc… some nasty women commented and told me that I shouldn’t have ordered stationary and I should have just gone to the Dollar Store and bought some generic cheap ones. So that’s how I know you can buy them at the Dollar Store. 

    Post # 36
    Member
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would prefer hand-written. Have her sign up for Vista print emails, also check Groupon for sales. Postcards are a cheaper option as postage costs less.

    Post # 37
    Member
    3307 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Handwritten is definitely best but I suppose an email thank you is better than no thank you at all. And I’m sorry, but I don’t buy the too expensive excuse. My good friend had a very tight wedding budget and she was able to send timely handwritten notes. Plus she has a child. Email is just lazy.

    Post # 39
    Member
    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think a handwritten thank you is important.  If someone wants to display it in their house or even on their fridge, they shouldn’t have to print it from the computer first to do it. 

    Plus, 110 guests doesn’t mean 100 thank you cards.  It’d likely be half that, since many are from the same household.  So, if she printed her own thank you cards on pieces of paper with the word “Thank You” typed on the front and a handwritten note on the inside, it’d cost maybe 45 cents to mail 55 of them, which is still only about $25 total.

    I just think when someone buys you a gift, the least you could do is send a thank you card.

    Post # 40
    Member
    1265 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @mypinkshoes:  I second this. I’m having over 400 people and, yes, I’ll be handwriting personalized notes. All 200 of them. If they took the time to come AND give a gift,that is the least I can do. 

    Post # 41
    Member
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I personally would not be offended.  However, I think that no matter how nice the emails are they just don’t seem very personal to me.  PPs have some great suggestions about doing thank you notes on a budget.

    Post # 42
    Member
    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Send postcard thankyou’s.  Postcards are cheaper than normal cards, don’t require an envelope and has cheaper postage.  

    Post # 43
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @ocrest12:  A personal note in the mail is SUPER RARE & EXCITING! An email? Bite me, bride.

    I get hundreds of emails per day.

    Your updated option is totally bogus. You’re trying to stack the deck and it still doesn’t work. The best option would be a personalised thank-you card, with a photo, in the post. It doesn’t even have to be hand written, it could be typed and printed. But if the choice is between a lousy generic message in a snail-mail card or a fabulous, personalised photo email? I want the lousy card.

    And I’m the most techy, unsentimental person I know. I’d throw that card in the recycling as soon as I read/scan it. I still want it.

    Post # 44
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Also, thank you cards are SUPPOSED to require effort. Just like giving a gift requires effort. I think it’s super lame to cite the time/energy required as a reason NOT to write real cards. The time and effort is the whole point.

    Post # 45
    Member
    469 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think it is very tacky!

    Post # 46
    Member
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I would never say no to using less paper!  I think thank you cards are silly anyway. Honestly, If I was thanked in any way I would be happy, but my personal preference is a phone call. I give people gifts because I enjoy giving them gifts, not because I want to get some great thank you card.

     

    The topic ‘Thank-you card debate, Please Help’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors