- miss narwhal
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
@ocrest12: I am sorry but as other PPs have said that a handwritten note means much more. I personally spend a nice amount of money on the brides and grooms of weddings I attend. I do not think that it is too much to ask for them to sit down and spend 2 minutes handwriting me a nice note and then putting a 40 some odd cent stamp on it. This is just my opinion.
Handwritten vista print always has great deal on living social and groupon. I got $76 coupon for $17. She should look out for those deals to save money
I’m not reading through the responses to see if this was already mentioned….but perhaps your friend can get some from the Dollar Store or something? When I came on here awhile ago and got eviscerated for complaining that my husband’s uncle complained that after 2 weeks of giving us their gift they still hadn’t received their thank you’s because we were about to get our personalized stationary from the printer, etc… some nasty women commented and told me that I shouldn’t have ordered stationary and I should have just gone to the Dollar Store and bought some generic cheap ones. So that’s how I know you can buy them at the Dollar Store.
I would prefer hand-written. Have her sign up for Vista print emails, also check Groupon for sales. Postcards are a cheaper option as postage costs less.
Handwritten is definitely best but I suppose an email thank you is better than no thank you at all. And I’m sorry, but I don’t buy the too expensive excuse. My good friend had a very tight wedding budget and she was able to send timely handwritten notes. Plus she has a child. Email is just lazy.
Great feedback so far. Apparently I can’t edit the original post so I hope people reply to this too.
I thought about this after seeing comments. which one is better: Getting a hand written generic thank you like “thank you for coming to our wedding. We appreciated your gift” or an email with a more detailed note thanking you for the specific giIt, personal note and a photo attachment like one of these photos? http://www.bridalguide.com/blogs/bridal-buzz/wedding-thank-you-cards
I have actually gotten written thank yous that were one liners, and personally thought those where kind of meh, but are those more appreciated than a personalized email?
I think a handwritten thank you is important. If someone wants to display it in their house or even on their fridge, they shouldn’t have to print it from the computer first to do it.
Plus, 110 guests doesn’t mean 100 thank you cards. It’d likely be half that, since many are from the same household. So, if she printed her own thank you cards on pieces of paper with the word “Thank You” typed on the front and a handwritten note on the inside, it’d cost maybe 45 cents to mail 55 of them, which is still only about $25 total.
I just think when someone buys you a gift, the least you could do is send a thank you card.
I personally would not be offended. However, I think that no matter how nice the emails are they just don’t seem very personal to me. PPs have some great suggestions about doing thank you notes on a budget.
Send postcard thankyou’s. Postcards are cheaper than normal cards, don’t require an envelope and has cheaper postage.
@ocrest12: A personal note in the mail is SUPER RARE & EXCITING! An email? Bite me, bride.
I get hundreds of emails per day.
Your updated option is totally bogus. You’re trying to stack the deck and it still doesn’t work. The best option would be a personalised thank-you card, with a photo, in the post. It doesn’t even have to be hand written, it could be typed and printed. But if the choice is between a lousy generic message in a snail-mail card or a fabulous, personalised photo email? I want the lousy card.
And I’m the most techy, unsentimental person I know. I’d throw that card in the recycling as soon as I read/scan it. I still want it.
Also, thank you cards are SUPPOSED to require effort. Just like giving a gift requires effort. I think it’s super lame to cite the time/energy required as a reason NOT to write real cards. The time and effort is the whole point.
I think it is very tacky!
I would never say no to using less paper! I think thank you cards are silly anyway. Honestly, If I was thanked in any way I would be happy, but my personal preference is a phone call. I give people gifts because I enjoy giving them gifts, not because I want to get some great thank you card.
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