(Closed) Thank you card etiquette

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

i had two sets of thank you cards; one specifically for bridal shower and one for wedding gifts.. I’d probably assume the second one would be a wedding gift but send out one shower thank you card to her mentioning both sets of gifts and maybe stating "thank you for the second set of china for our wedding gift" to be clear.  hope that helps!

Post # 4
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

1:  For both checks and gift cards, we just wrote "Thank you so much for your generous gift."  And then we tried to describe what we might do with it, which for us is generally along the lines of home improvement (we registered at Lowe’s).  For the many, many Macy’s gift cards that we got, we generally told people that we would use them to a) finish out the serving pieces for our dishes or b) buy some nice knives.

2:  We sent a separate thank you card for each gift.  Some people ended up getting 3 or 4 (I think they kept sending gifts just to see  how many thank you cards they would get).  We also got shower gifts, wedding gifts, and some oddly random gifts (engagement gifts maybe?) from a few friends.

Post # 5
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

1. My general wording for a cash gift (regardless of the amount) is:

Thank you so much for the generous gift.  We plan on using it to help with our honeymoon to Italy.  (sometimes I insert – we’ll have a nice dinner/ bottle of wine, tour etc).We’re so glad you’ll be able to make it to celebrate/ sorry you won’t be able to join us.

Optional – see you soon.


2 I would send two cards – with different patterns and not guess what’s a wedding gift or not.


My thought was its just more important to send them and acknowledge each gift than get too wrapped up in the wording.  I never (personally) pay much attention to thank you cards and I think those that do are mostly in its the thought that counts category.  (I am doing pics with the wedding gifts because I thought that was nice touch…)

Post # 6
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m just curious why send 2 cards to the same person for 2 gifts if you can thank them with one? isn’t that really wasteful? or is that etiquette?

Post # 7
438 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I think I agree with glittergrl…..at this point, when they are all going out at the same time, just send one card, but thank them for each gift.  as for $ gifts, exactly what everyone else said.

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