Post # 1
We are starting to receive gifts, and I’m just wondering from an etiquette standpoint if it’s OK to send all the thank-you cards after the wedding at once, or if I’m expected to start sending them now. I haven’t even started thinking about ordering thank-you cards, and I’m really hoping it’s something I can put off until after the wedding because I’m starting to feel overwhelmed. That said, I don’t want to be rude. Is there a certain etiquette rule on this?
Post # 3
If you receive gifts before the wedding you should send the thank yous immediately. (I mean, if its 2 days before and you have a bunch of other stuff to do that’s fine, but they will start to trickle in.) That way the givers know you have received it and they don’t worry it was lost in the mail.
Post # 4
Because I believe everything on the internet ()…
“Brides and grooms should wait no more than 6-8 weeks after the ceremony to send their wedding thank you cards.
In fact, couples should start sending thank you notes as soon as the gifts start arriving, even if it is before the wedding. This will help couples who have 100+ thank you cards to send out after the wedding.”
Post # 5
@amanda06: Start sending them now. Besides being the most gracious thing to do, it will also give you one less thing to do after the wedding. Instead of writing 100 after the wedding, maybe you can do just 75.
The gold standard for thank you notes is to write and send them on the night the gift was received before you go to bed.
Etiquette do not make exceptions for waiting on special cards. A note written on your own stationary is more then sufficient.
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of sending thank you cards before the wedding. I’ve always been under the impression you can thank the person/people verbally, but then wait until after the wedding to send a formal thank you card.
Post # 7
Send now and save yourself having to write them all at once! Also, people like getting the thank-you because it signals that you received the gift.
Post # 8
For wedding gifts we haven’t yet sent out our thank you cards (even for gifts recieved before the wedding) because we are waiting for our professional photos to include in the card. That being said we just got married less than a month ago and should have the photos soon.
We did send out immediately thank you cards for any shower gifts to get that out of the way before the wedding.