(Closed) Thank you card etiquette: do you send bridal shower thank you’s?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you write thank you's for your bridal shower?
    Yes, then wrote another thank you if they gave a gift for the wedding. : (69 votes)
    97 %
    No, thanked them with our wedding thank you's. : (2 votes)
    3 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    You send them right after the shower. Also, everyone who bought me a gift at the shower also bought me a gift at the wedding. I’ve never heard that you only get one gift between the two events. I also sent thank yous immediately after getting gifts pre-wedding from those who couldn’t attend and I sent a picture thank you after the wedding (because I’m crazy I guess). The USPS loved me.

    Post # 4
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    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Although etiquette queens will probably flame me for this, I combined my thank you cards. My wedding shower was 4 days before the wedding, and it seemed silly to me to send out two identical thank you cards within days of each other to the same person (especially because all of the gifts were cash).

    I guess it depends how quickly you can get your photo cards back? If they have to wait more than a month or two for their thank you card, that is probably a bit too long to wait.

    Post # 6
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    735 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Wannabe-diy-bride: Your wedding is a month away.  And several of the guests won’t be attending the wedding.  There really isn’t a reason to wait to send out your Thank You cards to these kind people who gave you gifts.

    A gift really does deserve a prompt Thank You card.  Of course the plan is to get your photo Thank Yous back promptly, but you’ll have so many more to write after the wedding.  And these might get mixed in with the other notes to write and not go out for nearly two months after your shower.  If you write these now, they will be completed and off your checklist of things to do when you return from your honeymoon.

    If you send out the Thank You cards prior to the wedding, these guests will not expect the photo cards, and you will be perfectly justified in sending the notes on less expensive (but still nice!) cards from a stationary store – or Target.  Unless you have a very large number to mail, this should not be an additional $50 cost.

    Post # 7
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    If I attended both your shower and your wedding and I got you two separate gifts, I’d expect two separate thank you cards:  one for the shower and one for the wedding.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have found this simple solution to thank you cards– Receive a gift, write a thank you

    Post # 9
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @Wannabe-diy-bride: I understand wanting to save money but, for me, thank you cards are not the place to try and cut back. Paying for stamps sucks buuuuut these people were generous to your and your Fiance.

    Post # 10
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Yes send them out for your Bridal shower. It is always nice for your guest who gave you gifts etc, to feel appreciated for being a part of your special days! I have a lot of thank yous comming in the next 3 months lol I sent out my first round after my first shwoer. Second round goes after my second shower on Sep 11th and then of course the third after the actual wedding. Ugh so much writing lol

    Post # 11
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    addendum: no thank you card- no repeat gift from me– am I cold or just old fashioned? hmmm

    Post # 12
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    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree about sending cards for all occaisions, but email thank yous in addition are not required!

    Post # 13
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    think of the mailed thank you card as a way to brighten someone’s day.  I know that my mailbox grins when there is something besides a bill and grocery ads.

    Post # 14
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    A thank you note should always be given no matter how many gifts or events you have.

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