Post # 1
What do you write on your thank you cards for monetary gifts? Fiance and I have lived together for a number of years now and do not need much, but we are planning on registering for some items to possibly upgrade things we already have (but honestly I don’t expect anyone to buy us the kitchenaid or shun knives – we can hope though). I expect between the 2 showers (one my mom’s house, one where we live) and wedding we will get some cash gifts. I’ve read that you are supposed to be specirific and say what the money will go to, but realistically I’m taking a pay cut next semester – so money may go to rent or even paying our student loans eventually, maybe travel. Should I say honeymoon? My mom seemed to think people would not like knowing they helped pay for your vacation, but we are not interested in purchasing a house now or in the near future.
Post # 3
@bluemartini6: I’d just say something like:
Dear Jane & John,
Thank you so much for coming to our wedding (shower/thinking of us) and for your generous gift! We enjoyed having you there and hope you had as much fun as we did. We are putting your gift into savings to help build our new married life together.
Thank you again,
Sarah & Joe
Post # 4
I didn’t say anything about what the money would go to..I just used the same thing for all the cash gifts, “Thank you for your generous gift…” I didn’t even know you were supposed to tell them what you’ll be using the money for lol.
Post # 5
@NAvery: —> THIS
Saying you are putting the money towards Savings is perfectly acceptable. Lol, if that means that it goes in and out of savings fairly quickly because the economy is tight so be it.
Although, do be prepared for the day that you run into Dear Aunt Sue and she ask’s you “whatever did you do with the money I gave you for a Wedding Present”… that really isn’t when you want to be telling 100% of the truth and saying “we bought groceries”… you may want to have something else in mind for that occasion should it arise especially so if she says it while having tea in your apartment (“Oh you haven’t seen the ___ we bought”)
Post # 6
@NAvery: great advice!
I didn’t expect people to be uncomfortable with helping us travel, but I know I’ve heard family make numerous comments about how you need to own your home – they seem to forget the additional homeowner responsibilities and costs and that not everyone has the same idea of what you “have to do” in life.
honestly between pinterest and the beehive, i’m likely overthinking things!
Post # 7
@This Time Round: lol
sometimes its just hilarous when family doesn’t get it. maybe we will select one or two higher end items to purchase that we don’t receive and have those be our “go to items” when that happens. Oh, we put it towards the _____.
Post # 8
@bluemartini6: Yup… that seems like a good plan.
And a valuable TIP… make a point that you and your Hubby make a VOW that you won’t reveal to anyone else exactly how much money / cash / cheques etc you receive as Wedding Presents. It really is NO ONE’s business… and only tends to cause discourse in my experience (Moms & Dads repeat it… Siblings envy and compare it to their own Wedding Totals etc). PUT IT IN THE BANK AND FO…GETABOUTIT
Post # 9
@This Time Round: haha, more good advice. i know people will want to know too. but honestly i bet his siblings will get more than we do. I think we are like the first pancake, after our wedding “oh there is this and this and this that need attention” – like the idea of having a wedding & reception was like crazy talk to his parents (they’re more of the dinner party/cocktail type). Future Mother-In-Law even questioned why would would have a big reception and suggested snacks in a hotel room in vegas like her niece had… (and we get along well, so it’s not like she dislikes me, in their family they just don’t have formal events) Future Mother-In-Law & Future Father-In-Law had to sit down and talk about what they would contribute and decided all siblings will get X amount to do with what they want. I appreciate any help really, but honestly his family is huge – seems a little unfair that my family is doing more help us (I’m an only child, there are only 2 grandchildren total, I don’t have cousins really – while he has 30+ cousins and they got offended when we originally said no dates if you’re not in a long term relationship). We are hoping that they will cover the rehearsal dinner, especially since it doesn’t seem like anyone on that side will give us a shower.
Sorry for the rant! I think i just get rubbed the wrong way when his family invites us to come vacation with them (at the same time my mom is throwing a shower). No concept of how much we need to save to do things and how right now it’s all going to the wedding.