Post # 1
I am sure I can find your help on this trivial etiquette question (I am so clueless!)
My understanding of etiquette for gift thank you cards is to reply within 2 months of receiving a gift. For us, it means that we need to send some cards out by a couple of weeks before the wedding date. The question: should i wait until after the wedding to thank them for attending as well or should i send 2 separate thank you cards – one for the gift (before the wedding) and one for attending?
Thanks! Have a great weekend, too.
Post # 3
I’m winging it here until someone else jumps in. I don’t believe you need to sned two thank yous. I think one is fine. Also, if you have favors, those serve as a nice thank you, for those who haven’t given a gift or gave one beforehand. For those who give you a gift before the wedding, I believe it is proper to send a thank you ASAP. This is mostly to let them know you received the gift (like if it was sent in the mail.)
As for the timing of two months, I hear different things. I think somewhere people think they have 6mo -1y. But I think a bunch of gurus have debunked that as myth. I think I’ve heard 1mo as the timeline. Two months probably wouldn’t be bad though. My advice would be to just get it done ASAP. I thin kone bee not too long ago had a plan of doing them on the plane ride to her honeymoon. That’s a great idea. Or you could address the envelopes ahead of time, etc.
Post # 4
I’ve always heard that you’re supposed to send thank you notes for wedding gifts after the wedding, since presumably you want to include something about how useful the gift is, but you aren’t supposed to use it until after the wedding. It seems to me that everyone has a different understanding of how this works though.
Post # 5
You’re supposed to send a thank you for the gift as soon as you get it. It’s not necessary to send a thank you note for attending afterwards, if you sent one for the gift IME. A nice thing would be to also thank the early gift givers at the wedding.