Post # 1
Last month we went away for our destination wedding in Jamaica! We had 38 family members and some family friends attend the week with us. At the wedding reception, some of the guests gave us cards. My DH’s Uncle had written in his card that he will be sending his gift upon our return home. It’s been about 3 weeks and I have almost completed all the thank you cards, everyone is recieving a Thank you card with photos regardless of giving a card or gift. And those that did give a gift I wrote a personal comment thanking them for it. My question is, the Uncle hasn’t mentioned the gift and I would like to write a personal thank you for the gift, should I just send a thank you anyway before receiving it or wait? I know I technically have 3 months to complete, I just don’t know if I should wait or send one before receiving the gift? Or perhaps they forgot?
Post # 2
You don’t have 3 months to write thank you cards. You should write thank you cards immediately. Since you are sending a card to everyone regardless of if they gave you a gift or not, I would write him a card now to thank him for making the trip and for celebrating with you. Maybe he forgot about the gift and this will prompt him. Regardless, if he goes and visits someone and they say “Wow I got this really nice thank you card from our Bride. Did you get yours?” and he didn’t, his feelings will be hurt.
If and when you receive the gift, you should write him an additional card to thank him specifically for the gift.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel
Although it is recommended that you complete your thank you notes right away- you do have 3 months to finish them. Traditionally, you had up to a year!
I would send him a card right away as well- I agree that it might remind him about your gift 🙂
Post # 4
I would send all the thank you notes, including your uncle. When you do receive his gift, then send him another thank you note for the gift.
Post # 5
You never had a year to write thank you notes, that is an unfortunate myth. It’s guests who have a year to give a gift. Thank you notes are due asap, as you receive presents.
Traditionally, thank you notes are for gifts, not attendance. I can see why you’d feel like writing a note to someone who went so far above and beyond to travel to a Destination Wedding, though.
But since the uncle specifically said a gift was coming soon, in his case, I would wait and do one card.
Post # 6
I agree with the bees who said to send one thanking him for attending. It might prompt him to send the gift in which you’d then send another card thanking him for the gift.
Post # 7
Send a generic thank you for attending the wedding, and supporting you. It may jog his memory into sending you your gift. Then you write another thank you for that.
Post # 8
Thank you so much for your replies! I will send the Thank you Cards right away and perhaps if he remembers or not, I will send another to thank him for the gift.