(Closed) Thank you card Etiquette?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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1112 posts
Bumble bee

mrsjenie:  You don’t have 3 months to write thank you cards. You should write thank you cards immediately. Since you are sending a card to everyone regardless of if they gave you a gift or not, I would write him a card now to thank him for making the trip and for celebrating with you. Maybe he forgot about the gift and this will prompt him. Regardless, if he goes and visits someone and they say “Wow I got this really nice thank you card from our Bride. Did you get yours?” and he didn’t, his feelings will be hurt. 

If and when you receive the gift, you should write him an additional card to thank him specifically for the gift.

Post # 3
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550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

mrsjenie:  Although it is recommended that you complete your thank you notes right away- you do have 3 months to finish them. Traditionally, you had up to a year! 

I would send him a card right away as well- I agree that it might remind him about your gift 🙂

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

mrsjenie:  I would send all the thank you notes, including your uncle. When you do receive his gift, then send him another thank you note for the gift. 

Post # 5
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12635 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You never had a year to write thank you notes, that is an unfortunate myth. It’s guests who have a year to give a gift. Thank you notes are due asap, as you receive presents. 

Traditionally,  thank you notes are for gifts, not attendance. I can see why you’d feel like writing a note to someone who went so far above and beyond to travel to a Destination Wedding, though. 

But since the uncle specifically said a gift was coming soon, in his case, I would wait and do one card. 

Post # 6
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I agree with the bees who said to send one thanking him for attending. It might prompt him to send the gift in which you’d then send another card thanking him for the gift.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Send a generic thank you for attending the wedding, and supporting you. It may jog his memory into sending you your gift. Then you write another thank you for that.

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