(Closed) thank you card for someone who did not bring a gift?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would send her a thanks for attending thank you card and then if you receive a gift at a later date, send her another for the gift.  

Post # 4
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I only sent thank yous to those who gave us a gift.  You already thanked her in person (I assume) and gave her a special thank you card for being a part of your wedding.  Another thank you note is completely unnescessary.

Also, if I ever went to a wedding and didn’t give a gift (which would NEVER happen but hypothetically speaking), receiving a thank you note after the event would feel like fishing for a gift because when you have no gift to thank her for it really puts it in her face that she hasn’t give one.

If you do end up getting a gift from her later, I’d write her a thank you at that time.

Post # 5
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with Saeliz I would send her a “thanks for your help/participation” card and leave it at that. I think we have the same sister btw, mine did the exact same thing….

Post # 6
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We reuested no gifts for our wedding as we threw away/donated a ton of stuff when we combined households. Of course some guests gave us gifts anyway. Regardless, every guest got a thank you card for sharing our joy on our wedding day.

Post # 7
16 posts
  • Wedding: March 2011

Every guest should get a thank you even for attending.  We gave a cash gift to our friends, and perhaps his wife didn’t know about it, since it was the day of the wedding we gave it.

I thought it was rude not to even get a thank you card for attending… that would have made up for the gift. 

We will send thank you cards to everyone for even coming. Thay is time out of their life, to spend with us on our special day.  Perhaps that night or day, they wanted to stay home or perhaps they wanted to go on vacation around that time, but put things on hold to attend.  You never know.

Give the benefit of the doubt.  She may not be able to afford it right now.  My fiance and I have run into that, where we have to wait to send a gift so we have enough money.  Just never know.  I am sure the intentions are there.

Give it a second thought 🙂


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