Post # 1
Hi Hive! I have some questions about thank you cards. First, how late is too late to send them out? I got married in early June, would it be a waste to send them out now? Second, both my husband and I have HORRIBLE handwriting. Would it be ok to type them or no? Or, could we just send a generic thank you note? Something like "Thank you for your love and wonderful gift. It means a lot that you thought of us on our special day. Love always Mr.&Mrs. Hudson". I ordered post cards from Vista Print, but I’m almost willing to order more with the generic message to get them out.
What do you think?
Post # 3
It is not too late to send them now. And by now you can say more than just "thank you for the lovely…" You should be able to tell a little story about how you’ve used the gift, or what you bought with the gift card, which your guests will appreciate a lot.
Which is sort of the answer to the second part of the question. IMO, a typed little form letter is not appropriate. Your guests presumably spent time looking through your registry, figuring out what you wanted, and deciding which of those things they would like to get for you. Some of your guests shopped in person, some of them wrapped their own gifts – they all went out of their way to get dressed up and drive to your wedding. They deserve the 15 minutes it will take for you to write a real note. And I would bet that your handwriting isn’t that much worse than most people’s – at least not so bad that your guests can’t read it at all.
Start tonight – sit down with your husband – give him four blank notes and take four yourself. In an hour you will have eight done and ready to mail tomorrow. If you keep that up, even if you had a really big wedding, you should be done in less than a month. It even gets to be fun – telling people how much you enjoyed seeing them, what wonderful waffles your hubby makes with the new waffle iron, how much fun it is to have dishes that match and aren’t all scratched and chipped… I had a blast reading the creative things that Darling Husband wrote, and he laughed a lot at mine, and we sort of inspired each other.
Post # 4
It’s never too late to send a thank you note, as people want to know you received their gift. It may be late in terms of etiquette, but I know I would still want to receive a thank you for a gift.
I would suggest you can type them but don’t make them generic. It seems more factory-esque if you do that and very impersonal. Typing due to illegible handwriting should be fine, but still sign them in your own hand.
It’s definitely more work but I think it’s worth it.
Post # 5
You need to send them….don’t be that gal who didn’t send a thank you note. You know, that one our mothers and grandmothers tell us about while they’re nagging us about them before the wedding’s even over! It’s not too late for you to send them, but you should get working on them now. It really is unacceptable not to send them. It makes you look unappreciative. Also, nix the form letter idea. That’s more insulting than not getting a thank you note at all. It won’t take you that much time to write a personal message for your guests. Whether you type or write it doesn’t matter, but what you say should be reflective of your appreciation. If you don’t really appreciate what they’ve done for you by coming to your wedding and giving you a gift……fake it!
Post # 6
Ok, so I lied, I have four questions. 🙂 Even though we registered, we didn’t receive many gifts from it. 80% of our gifts were money, which we in turn put into our checking account which helped us pay our house payment and bills (I know, not what it’s supposed to be for, but that’s what we chose to do). I feel weird telling people the money they gave us helped pay the mortgage. Is there a tasteful way of putting it?
Post # 7
YOu could say it was for "upgrading" or you could lie and say you put it into savings to use in the future for something nice – vacation, second honeymoon, etc. They don’t have to really know, and it’s not like theyll check up with your bank. I don’t blame you for using it like that….we may be doing the same thing….wish we didn’t have to, but such is life.
Post # 8
It is never TOO LATE to send a thank you card/note. It sounds like most of your gifts were monetary, in that case just a few simple sentences thanking them for sharing in your day and how much you’re loving married life (since it’s been a few months…)
Suzanno is right. The sooner you get started, the easier it will seem.
Post # 9
Maybe you could say something like: "Thank you for contributing to our new home together." or something like that.