(Closed) Thank You Card: Never Recieved Gift (lost in the mail?)

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9115 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

How long has it been? You can make it up casually. “Do you know when we should be expecting your package so someone can be home? I know you said you sent it [x date] and it’s been [however long] and I’m just checking that I don’t need to yell at my local ups/postal/fedex branch.”


Post # 5
2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@kcody:  in the thank you card, say, “thank you for coming to the wedding, it was so nice to see you…” etc if she came, making no mention of a gift. if she didn’t come to the wedding, there is nothing to send a thank-you card for (yet) as you have not received her gift.

Post # 6
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you just send a “Thank you for coming” note. Sounds to me like “I sent a gift” is code for “I haven’t gotten around to it” in this case. Either the thank you will remind her to send it, or it won’t. 

Post # 7
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@gingerkitten:  She didn’t come to the wedding…

OP I wouldn’t say anything more about it or send a thank you note. If the sender knows from your previous messages that you didn’t recieve it but they don’t want to follow through to make sure you get the gift, it’s ridiculous for them to expect a thank you note. They may have even lied about sending a gift just to make themselves look better.

Post # 8
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I wouldn’t send a thankyou, agree with PP that they may not have even sent one. If I paid for a gift that never arrived I would be chasing that up asap!

Post # 9
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you didn’t receive the gift, no need for a thank you card.

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