(Closed) Thank you card now, or later?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1816 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I would definitely write her a thank you now since that is when you received the gift.  As for seperate thank yous for the shower gift and the wedding gift, that is really up to you.  It might be a nice guesture to right them seperately, however they would arrive around the same time anyway so may save the paper and postage?  Yeah, I’m no help…

Post # 4
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would write a thank you immediately so she knows that you picked it up.  I sent thank yous for all wedding gifts I received before the wedding right away.

Post # 5
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had a similar situation – mom’s friend gave me a shower gift, but sent her wedding gift that same week (obviously just doing it while she was there!)  I wrote two separate thank-yous, since they were two gifts and just sent one a few days later than the other. Plus, I wanted to thank her for being at the shower (just her), but also recognize her husband (the wedding gift).  All that being said, I would def send them before the wedding! They like to know you have it!

Post # 6
2681 posts
Sugar bee

I would send a thank you note for the shower and for the wedding gift.  Its easiest to send thank you notes as you receive the gifts so they dont pile up.

Post # 7
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would go to “Miss Manner’s Guide to a Dignified Wedding” for advice here. She would say that all wedding gifts given before the wedding require a thank you note before the wedding itself (and yes, it’s okay to open them!) and that gifts given at the wedding (or after) require a prompt thank you note.

Really, I think the best rule of thumb is, if you were the guest who gave this gift, how would you want to be recognized for it – that can help put things into perspective. 

As a guest, I love Thank You notes, because I want to know 1) that the couple recieved it and 2) that you loved it!

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Your suppose to send a thank you letter as soon as you receive the gift. Express how much you loved it!!

Post # 9
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Go ahead and send it now. And it’s fine that you opened the gift. 🙂

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