(Closed) Thank You Card Question

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Send a thank you card to say thanks for attending and how much you appreciated their attendance on your special day. I did this even for guests who did not bring a gift.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by  MrsLeb.
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ll get mixed answers on this.

In my social circle, you don’t send thank you notes for a card, or for attendance at an event.  The reception was what you did to thank your guests for attending the ceremony.  Thank you cards are acknowledgements of an extra gift, outside of their presence.  If I received a thank you card for an event to which I didn’t bring a gift, I’d think the sender was hinting at getting a gift. 

It depends on how your social circle does things, really.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would send them a Thank You for Coming card, and write a nice message, ’cause why not? I don’t believe that you should thank solely for physical gifts. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I didn’t send thank yous for attendance or cards. People who attended got the reception (and awesome cake) as a thank you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Others may not agree but my take is that it doesn’t hurt to send one but it could hurt someone’s feelings to not recieve on. We did cards for everyone, gift or not, because so many traveled to be with us. They took time off work, paid for hotel and made other sacrifices. That was their gift to us. Sounds the same for you. You could just write a basic message thanking them for their time taken and their support along with a picture of the two of you.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would still send a thank you, as I expect it still cost them quite a bit to attend. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I was always taught that you send thank you cards for the gifts you recieved.  I hand delivered some of the cards and sent others.  Those who gave cards but no gifts got a verbal thank you for the card the next time we communicated with them.  But I would ask some recent brides in your family and friend group and ask what they did. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I sent thank-you notes to everyone who attended my wedding, although in my case it was just immediate family so it was easy to do.  I  thought it was the nice thing to do, because I just wanted to say thank you for coming to our wedding.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2015

This happened to us, we had an incredibly small wedding and maybe half the people brought a gift. I ended up sending a thank you card, for sharing our special day with us, just to be polite. However, it is not mandatory; they didn’t get you a gift!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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llevinso:  IMO sometimes the responses on here read into too much with “gift grabby”. I hadn’t heard of it until here either and as a guest I never thought negetively when someone takes the time and effort to send a card, nor do I know anyone else that does. Atleast they do not say to my face. 

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