(Closed) Thank You Card Question – Divorced/Separated

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4485 posts
Honey bee

Etiquette says you have up to a year to send thank yous.


Thank you cards should be hand-addressed. Get the new addresses and just write them on the envelopes. No one will be comparing them. Send them out to the couples as though they are still together. That way, they don’t get lost in the mail.

Post # 4
2615 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i would do indiviual thank yous for the people who have publically broken up and a single thank you for the one that is not for sure announced.

Post # 5
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If they’ve broken up for sure and they don’t live together, send two thank you notes.  For the couple that you aren’t sure about, send one thank you note if they live together and two thank you notes if they live separately.  

I was in this situation once – went to a wedding with my boyfriend, we broke up, I’m assuming they sent HIM the thank you note… I never found out, and to be honest, I judged them a little because I wasn’t sure they bothered to send thank you notes.  

If they came to your wedding and brought you a gift, I say you should spend the extra few minutes to send a separate card so they both feel thanked, especially in the midst of the heartbreak they must be dealing with.  

(Sorry, obviously I have strong feelings about this, so take it with a grain of salt <smile>)

Post # 6
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I get annoyed by the statement that people have a year to send thank you notes after a wedding. That wouldn’t be acceptable in any other circumstance, so why would we think it is ok to slack off after a wedding? Etiquette does NOT ok this!

-OP I’m not trying to be rude to you, you made it clear that you realize the thank you notes got away from you. (and that can happen to the best intentioned bride) I just get irked when I see that statement and I can’t seem to keep quiet about it…

In the cases where your guests have made it public that they are no longer together, you should send two notes, the guidance given by 

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@sarahcool:  is good for the couple that you aren’t sure about. 

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