(Closed) Thank you card questions?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

1. I would do just as you said, send them a thank you for celebrating your day with you. and just don’t mention the money.

2. I had people not show up (no phone call either!) and I did not send them thank you cards.

Post # 3
Member
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Regarding the people with bounced checks… considering you know what financial situation they’re in, I would absolutely send them one.  I think it’s really about thanking them for enjoying your day with you and being there to celebrate your happiness.

The aunt and uncle… no way.

Post # 4
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

1) Yes, thank them for “celebrating with you and how amazing it was to be able to share that special day with them.”

2) Common courtesy and manners goes both ways unless you hear through the family grapevine of a true emergency or legitimate reason for their no show; but the fact that they didn’t send a card or phone shows what kind of people they are. In the same token, they aren’t some co-worker or friend who pulled that. They are now in unfortunately family, albeit in-law familiy. I think a thank you card sent their way with a brief “thank you for your support and well wishes” will show who the bigger and better personis. At least its enough to keep things calm since sooner or later you’ll come face to face with family.

Post # 5
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4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you should thank the no-shows… like you said, for what? Since they didn’t even send you a card, then I don’t know how you could even thank them for their “support” or “well-wishes.!”

Post # 6
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@red_rose: i agree with that in most cases, but its family… although it is extremely tempting to be snarky and say “thank you for rsvp-ing and not showing.” especially if the Mother-In-Law is hinting that they need to be thanked. usually i’ll just take the high road with my in laws and avoid the potential fall out later. or maybe send a card that’s a thank you card and state “we missed you at the wedding, hope all is well.” =P

Post # 8
Member
1278 posts
Bumble bee

Those with the bounced checks but still celebrated with you at your wedding, they should get a thank you.  They did take time to come and be with you and your Darling Husband on your big day, so a simple “Thank you for celebrating with us on our wedding day” should be good.  I wouldn’t mention anything about the checks in there.  

For the ones who RSVP’d but never showed up or sent anything, you are right, you really don’t have anything to say thank you for!  I wouldn’t send them anything, because I couldn’t even begin to think about what to even write in the card since they didn’t do anything.

Good luck!

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