(Closed) Thank You Card RANT!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think its important to write a little message, but they trend seems to be just picture type thank you cards. I think the fact that they sent something was nice, cause I’ve been to 3 weddings in the past year, and I havent gotten a thank you card, and I too gave them a generous gift.

Post # 5
Member
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Nope, you’re right, this is rude and gross.  Just another reason I feel that the world is going to hell in a handbasket.

Post # 6
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3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I got one of these for a wedding I went to this past year. I too think it is rude (I started a thread on it). I think it refelects really poorly on the couple and I will likely keep it in mind the next time this couple hosts something (housewarming, baby shower, etc).

Post # 7
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44 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You are right!  Rude and thoughtless!

Post # 8
Member
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s very rude, but not much you can do about it.

Post # 9
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was always made to sit down and write thank you cards – after birthdays, christmases, graduation, etc.  If I received a gift, there would be a pen and blank thank you note in front of me within days.

Now that I’m older, I recognize that this type of communication is becoming a lost form of expressing gratitude – but it is still the most appreciated.  I think handwitten, personalized notes are even more appreciated nowadays due to the scarcity of the tradition.  

I still hand write thank you notes for everything – anything less would not be accurately expressing my appreciation and thankfulness.  Thank you cards are meant to express gratitude and if the person was important enough to invite to your wedding, they are worth a couple minutes of thoughtful writing.

I know that not everyone was raised the way I was, but handwritten thank you notes are just common ettiquet.  I’m all for bucking tradition, but not when it comes to thanking other people.  

I’d be just a little annoyed, too, if I were in your shoes – but I wouldn’t fret about it long.  Not worth the time and energy.

Post # 10
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

So rude! Even if you make a picture thank you, you still MUST address it to proper person, sign it yourself and write a personalized note! WOW! Their momma didn’t raise them right!

Post # 12
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Ashley_B:  I’ve never received a thank you card for any wedding that I’ve ever been to. T

Post # 13
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@vorpalette:  Really!?  Trying to figure out what those brides were thinking only results in a *facepalm*

But hey, to each her own.  We weren’t all raised the same.

Post # 14
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I hate, hate, HATE “thank you cards” that are really just collages of pictures of the couple and generic messages!  I don’t care if that’s what is considered “trendy” – I personally think it’s rude and horrible to send those out.  I don’t want to see 6 pictures of your marriage – I was there – I saw it in person.  I would much rather open up a card that has 2 hand written sentences…. to me, that shows that you cared enough to spend 5 minutes of your time to thank me for celebrating with you and giving you a nice gift. 

Sorry if this offends anybody who sends out generic picture thank yous, but it’s the truth.  I haven’t met anybody who actually thinks those are a good idea. 

Post # 15
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386 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@Ashley_B:  The picture thank you cards are very popular. I am considering them as well and quite like them but all the ones I have received have also had a personal handwritten message from the couple inside as well. I think that people are using handwritting less and less in general now. My teenage nephew can’t even read cursive because he wasn’t taught it in school…unbelieveable imo.

 

I didn’t get a thank you card for one wedding and a baby shower I attended. I was more upset that my parents (who were not invited to either but sent a VERY generous wedding gift and shower gift, and by very generous I mean they bought out the remaining registry, every single item for the shower!) and they never received a thank you. Not even a phone call, nothing. That made me mad.

Post # 16
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

We did a Shutterfly thank you card that had a picture on the front and on the inside, personalized of course, along with a little note of thanks pre-printed inside as well. However!!! I also hand wrote a small note of thanks specific to each guest and their contribution in addition to the pre-printed message.

I was raised that thank you cards should be personal and specific and a generic “thank you” was never deemed appropriate…regardless of the event.

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