(Closed) Thank you card situation

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

How many people were in your wedding?  9 months is a long time to wait to send out thank you cards IMO.  It’s been almost a month since our wedding and it’s really bothering me that I don’t have mine out yet (but I’ve been waiting on the pictures postcards to be printed so that I can write them). 

Anyway, I think you should ask your husband to either let you write the cards for the family that you will see this weekend, or have him write them before he leaves.  Express to him that it will put you in an awkward position to not have their thank you cards, this late after the wedding.  But also tell him that you really do appreaciate how great his notes are. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@EmEv:

Ask for his help. He should.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Explain to him that his failure to write the notes is becoming embarassing and a poor impression for both you and him.  Tell him he has one week, and then you are writing and sending them out, whether he likes it or not.  If the guests you are seeing this weekend mention it, act surprised and tell them that each of you was responsible for your own guest list.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@MrsTrigger:Totally agree with this advice. 9 months is way too long. I would give him one week tops and then too bad if the notes aren’t perfectly written at least they got a thank you.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MrsTrigger: I agree completely.  9 months is a long time, and as a guest, if I haven’t recieved a thank-you after a few months, I figure it will never come.  How busy is his life that it’s taken that long to write half of just his side!?  (My Fiance is the same way when it comes to procrastination.)

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I also agree with @MrsTrigger.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I’d give Darling Husband a deadline.  Meaning – tell him he has one more month to complete them, if not, you are taking over.  That way – he gets a way to complete them (as he wants) and you have an actual timeframe.

Don’t worry about the notes for the family you are seeing this weekend.  If you haven’t seen them since the wedding, verbally thank them for their gift and just let them wait for their official thank you.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

 I heartily agree with MrsTrigger‘s advice. 

Maybe it’s gotten to the point where they’re looming over his head. You could always sit down together, put on an old movie, and split the remaining ones. Maybe set aside some time this weekend?

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