(Closed) Thank you card with pre printed message

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 6
9198 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I’d be a little taken aback, yeah.  It’s not that hard to write a couple sentences that acknowledge the specific gift and your specific relationship with the person.

Post # 7
12003 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@legenwaitforitdary:  i think it’s a little rude to not at least include a couple lines thanking you specifically. 

Post # 8
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Personally, I find it a little rude. Sure, writing personal thank you cards to each guest/family/couple is super time consuming and annoying, but it’s the right thing to do. Plus, I remember when a family friend sent a general thank you to my mother for their wedding gift, she was SO irritated. She had given them a pretty sizable gift, and to not have it recognized past “hey thanks for coming and thanks for the gift” really irked her. After reading the note, it bothered me too. It just seemed lazy and ungrateful. Fiance and I will definitely be writing personalized notes.

Post # 9
7219 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@legenwaitforitdary:  lol I actually just saw that idea somewhere else and my immediate reaction was to scrunch up my nose. I get that thank you cards are tedious but if I spent the time and money getting you a gift (nevermind getting made up and spending the day celebrating you) you better be taking the four minutes to handwrite me a card!!

Post # 10
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve gotten those before. Even ones where they didn’t sign their name. Just put it in an envelope. I don’t like it at all. But it is better than no thank you at all. Went to 4 weddings this summer and have not received a single thank you note… GRRR!!

Post # 11
910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


I am not a fan of the pre printed message. 

 A handwritten note just seems more personal.



Post # 12
11355 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@legenwaitforitdary:  Thank-you notes should be handwritten and personalized for each gift giver, reflecting the recipient’s or recipients’ gratitude for the specific gift received and the manner in which it was, or will be, applied, used, displayed, or otherwise appreciated.

Post # 13
3226 posts
Sugar bee

Thank you notes are not that hard to write and take just a few minutes. Even with 100+ gifts, it’s worth the effort to write them. I dislike getting pre-printed thank you notes but at least you got one.

Post # 14
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve received this before as well and I think it’s rude…

Ours had a pre-printed one-liner “A heartfelt thank you for everything”… and I wrote at least 5 sentences (sometimes many, many more!) around it, unique to each person…


Post # 16
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@legenwaitforitdary:  My coworker is doing this! She scoffed at the idea of writing that many thank you notes. I was appalled when she said this was their plan. So yeah, I think it’s super rude too. 

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