Post # 1
I’m writing out my thank you cards for our March wedding and I have a few people on my list who attended, but did not give a gift. Should I still send a thank you note for attending? Do I wait to see if they send a gift (etiquette says they have a year, right?). How long would you wait? Do I send nothing at all?
It seems most polite to send a thank your for attending (we are grateful for all of our guests who shared in our day, regardless of whether or not they gave a gift). But if they forgot to send one, or are still meaning to send one, would a thank you note come across as a rude “reminder”?
Post # 3
You’ll probably hear some split opinions on this one. I think that a “thank you for attending” is always appropriate because there is no requirement to give a gift, and you acknowledge that the guest still invested time and energy (and possibly money, if travel was involved) to be there for you. I think that deserves a thank you, and you can never go wrong by being extra polite. There are some, though, that do feel it looks like you’re hinting for a gift.
There is also the (rare, but possible) Option C: they may have actually given you a gift or card but it somehow went astray/got stolen/got separated from its tag, etc. I have heard that occasionally, when someone received a “thank you for coming” that didn’t include mention of a gift, it led to a phone call of “Oh, did you not receive the picture frame (or whatever) we gave you?” “Oh, was that from you? We were wondering who that was from!”
Post # 4
I say send one, “thank you for sharing our special day”…something along those lines.
Post # 6
I agree that you should send a card for attending. I had a few early gifts. I sent them a thank you for the gift, then I plan on sending those people thank you for attending cards as well when the time comes.
Post # 7
I say send it! You can always send another if a gift shows up later!
Post # 8
We sent everyone a thank you card. We just thanked them for attending.