(Closed) Thank you card without a gift?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3696 posts
Sugar bee

You’ll probably hear some split opinions on this one. I think that a “thank you for attending” is always appropriate because there is no requirement to give a gift, and you acknowledge that the guest still invested time and energy (and possibly money, if travel was involved) to be there for you. I think that deserves a thank you, and you can never go wrong by being extra polite. There are some, though, that do feel it looks like you’re hinting for a gift.

There is also the (rare, but possible) Option C: they may have actually given you a gift or card but it somehow went astray/got stolen/got separated from its tag, etc. I have heard that occasionally, when someone received a “thank you for coming” that didn’t include mention of a gift, it led to a phone call of “Oh, did you not receive the picture frame (or whatever) we gave you?” “Oh, was that from you? We were wondering who that was from!”

Post # 4
1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I say send one, “thank you for sharing our special day”…something along those lines.

Post # 5
295 posts
Helper bee

thank them for coming.



Post # 6
4675 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree that you should send a card for attending.  I had a few early gifts.  I sent them a thank you for the gift, then I plan on sending those people thank you for attending cards as well when the time comes.  

Post # 7
9544 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I say send it! You can always send another if a gift shows up later!

Post # 8
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

We sent everyone a thank you card. We just thanked them for attending.

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