Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I am closing in on the wedding, and we received our first gift last week (yay!) I am wondering when I should send the thank- you cards?
I plan to write them ASAP, just to help lighten the load, but should I wait until after the wedding to mail them all?
My plan is to make notes about who gave us what at the wedding that night (we will be leaving our reception at about 4pm) and then spend the 5+ hours on the flight the next day to write our thank-you’s. I was thinking it would be fun if I mailed them from Hawaii, because my dad used to always mail cards and letters to us whenever he traveled, and I always loved seeing where his letters came from. Should I wait and send them all that way? Or is it rude to not send them right away?
Post # 3
You write them as soon as you’re able, and mail them immediately. So your plan is great,
No way are you going to have time to open the gifts at the wedding before you leave. Most people have family or Maid/Matron of Honor or someone pack up the gifts given at the wedding and hold them until the B & G can open them. You may have some gifts leading up to the wedding that you can send thank you notes for from the honeymoon, but I just don’t see how, logistically, you’ll even know what the gifts given at the wedding will be until you get back.
Post # 4
To touch on what @ProfessorGirl said regarding timing, you *may* be able to write some of your thank you cards, but you will have to rely on the Thank You Manager offered by some retailers (assuming you registered) for that. You can also write them if they’re cash gifts. I doubt you will get them all. Even if you have the Thank You Manager in place, not all of my guests opted in.
Post # 5
They’re right – you won’t know what your gifts are until after you return from your honeymoon unless you have someone else open them and send you an email. And what fun is that?! We had my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law pack ours up at the wedding and drop them off at my parents’ the next day, and we didn’t even receive that many AT the wedding. My mom was very helpful encouraging my family to have our gifts shipped to the house before the wedding so we didn’t have to lug them back home (wedding was 2 hours away in my hometown).
Send thank-yous for what you get before the wedding as they arrive. If you want to send them another postcard and tell them what a great time you had with them at your wedding while you’re in Hawaii, that’s cool, too. But get them out of the way before you go. People will also wonder if their gift got there, etc, and it’s nice to send it just so they know it arrived, etc.
When you get home from your honeymoon it’ll be fun for you and your husband to sit down and open presents together and remember your wedding. We did it a couple nights after the wedding. I wrote on the back of cards what people got us and then just went through a stack of cards writing thank-yous.