(Closed) Thank You Cards

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You write them as soon as you’re able, and mail them immediately. So your plan is great,


No way are you going to have time to open the gifts at the wedding before you leave. Most people have family or Maid/Matron of Honor or someone pack up the gifts given at the wedding and hold them until the B & G can open them. You may have some gifts leading up to the wedding that you can send thank you notes for from the honeymoon, but I just don’t see how, logistically, you’ll even know what the gifts given at the wedding will be until you get back.

Post # 4
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To touch on what @ProfessorGirl said regarding timing, you *may* be able to write some of your thank you cards, but you will have to rely on the Thank You Manager offered by some retailers (assuming you registered) for that. You can also write them if they’re cash gifts. I doubt you will get them all. Even if you have the Thank You Manager in place, not all of my guests opted in.


Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

They’re right – you won’t know what your gifts are until after you return from your honeymoon unless you have someone else open them and send you an email.  And what fun is that?!  We had my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law pack ours up at the wedding and drop them off at my parents’ the next day, and we didn’t even receive that many AT the wedding.  My mom was very helpful encouraging my family to have our gifts shipped to the house before the wedding so we didn’t have to lug them back home (wedding was 2 hours away in my hometown). 

Send thank-yous for what you get before the wedding as they arrive.  If you want to send them another postcard and tell them what a great time you had with them at your wedding while you’re in Hawaii, that’s cool, too.  But get them out of the way before you go.  People will also wonder if their gift got there, etc, and it’s nice to send it just so they know it arrived, etc. 

When you get home from your honeymoon it’ll be fun for you and your husband to sit down and open presents together and remember your wedding.  We did it a couple nights after the wedding.  I wrote on the back of cards what people got us and then just went through a stack of cards writing thank-yous. 

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