(Closed) Thank you cards?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Must thank you cards be handwritten?
    Yes : (37 votes)
    90 %
    No : (4 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    They should absolutely be handwritten.  Nobody is “too busy” to do so.  Your guests are busy, too, but they took the time to select the gift, buy the gift, wrap the gift, attend the wedding… you can find the time to write a personalized note.

    Post # 4
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We got our cards printed with a personal message but we will still write a thank you in each card specific to the guest.

    Post # 5
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Definitely hand written. Make it personal 🙂

    Post # 6
    13866 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    This may be an unpopular opinion, but I’d rather not get a thank you card at all than get one that was computed printed.  They just look so generic and unsincere to me.

    Post # 7
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I prefer handwritten thank you cards.  I like the personal touch, and it seems much more thoughtful to me than a generic preprinted card.


    I’d like to also add that timeliness is also a big factor for me.  I know the new trend is to send a wedding photo thank you, but honestly, those take SO LONG to get, I think I’d rather forgo that and just send a simple handwritten thank you note.


    Everyone and their dog is on facebook.  I”m sure I’d see the wedding pictures.  I don’t want to wait 6 months thinking the bride was just too lazy to send thank you notes.  And trust me, people WILL talk if you wait months to send out your thank you notes.

    Post # 8
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    hand written says “we are thankful and are giving you the time and respect yo gave us” if you email or type the cards it says “we needed to mass produce theses thank you’s” thats my opinion

    Post # 9
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @abbie017:  +1 I would definitely rather a personal note. I think a generic printed card is worse than not receiving a thank you at all. 

    I traveled across the country to a friends destination wedding then went to her AHR, on top of giving a generous wedding and shower gift. I was a bit insulted just to receive a generic thank you card. 

    Post # 10
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @abbie017:  +1000.


    I crocheted a coverlet for a cousin’s wedding gift last summer.  I spent about 200 hours making the quilt and I received a preprinted thank you note.  All it said was “Thank you for the gift.”


    Well, geez.  Now I kinda feel self-conscious that she doesn’t even like it.  Makes me angry that I put so much time, effort and money into that gift and I’m not even sure she likes it.


    It, of course, also was one of those wedding picture printed cards.  I know that’s the fad lately, but I have already seen all the wedding pictures (took some of my own) I just feel so blah about the whole thing.




    I always thought the custom was to handwrite all thank you notes then for the following Christmas you could send your wedding picture with the Christmas cards.  That’s what we did….



    Post # 11
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Definitely hand-written. 

    Post # 12
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’m going to do my very very best to write the thank you as soon as we receive the gift so I don’t have to do so many at once. I’ve hand written plenty of thank you cards en masse over the years (high school graduation and college graduation), it is important to me to show them I have taken the time to think about their generosity, and have hand-written them a thank you. It’s the little touches that make people feel special, because they are special.

    Post # 13
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    If someone takes the time and goes to the effort to get you a gift then you can absolutely take the time to scribble out a thank you.


    Post # 14
    10 posts
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If you had a nice printer and typed a personal message to each guest and then hand-wrote your signature I think that would be fine. But I will most likely hand-write my thank you cards. I got a typed thank you card that had a personal message to me and I was not offended at all. I think in today’s world, those things will be more and more common.

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