(Closed) Thank you cards

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Definitely still etiquette to do so. Some people are just more of a stickler about it than others. I try not to take it personally, but I do always make sure to get my thank-you cards out as soon as I can. 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I believe you should always send a thank you card.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That is NOT normal! I went to a wedding in November and got a thank-you not in December!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you have up to a year to send them out (I plan to send them earlier then that) I was IN a wedding almost 2 years ago and never got a thank you card….I think it’s safe to say I’m not getting one now!!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I agree with PPs. Thank you cards are still proper etiquette, even if some people don’t send them! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

What happens if you can’t attend a wedding, send a gift, and never get a thank-you?  I did this for a wedding in August and haven’t heard anything.  I want to make sure they got it!  Would it be rude to email and ask?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@sweetchiquita12:  No gift givers have a year to send a gift.  Gift receivers are expected to get the notes in the mail as soon as possible.  The gold standard being before you go to bed the night a gift is received.  Most etiquette authorities give you a 3 month grace period.

Waiting a year to thank someone doesn’t really make you seem very grateful. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@andielovesj:  Yeah that makes sense. A thank you note would be nice right away

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Ugh. Of all the weddings I have attended over the past year or so (close friends and family members), I gave really nice and expensive gifts for the wedding and the shower and I have not heard a peep to say thank you.

This grates me so much and I find it to be so rude. Even if someone just made the effort to attend the wedding and celebrate with you, you could at least thank them.

I plan on getting my thank you’s out ASAP following the wedding. Definitely within one month, but hopefully sooner. I will force then Darling Husband to sit down and write them with me.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I side-eye any bride who honestly thinks she needs a YEAR to do them.   That’s unacceptable.  You’re busy?  Eh – I don’t buy it.   Everyone thinks they’re busier than everyone else.  I’m busy, you’re busy, WE ARE ALL BUSY.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My parents attended a wedding in January and never got a thank you card. And get this: The bride calls herself a wedding planner!

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