- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2016
I need some thank you card etiquette advice (mostly for my mom, because she is really into things being formal and perfect)
Bridal Shower Thank you’s:
I dont really have any questiions about these. I ma having a shower and will send out thank you cards immediatly after. My mom says these thank you cards CAN say the words, thank you, on the front. and they can be more “informal”, so just basic thank you cards.
Receiving gifts before the wedding thank you’s:
This is where it gets tricky. My mom thinks we will be receiving many gifts before our actual wedding. Do we send people thank you cards once we receive these gifts? What if these people will also be attending our wedding? So basically I am asking, will there be some people who could possibly receive THREE thank you cards from us. One if they come to my shower, one if they send a wedding gift before the wedding, one if they come to our wedding. Do you send a thank you to someone who just attends your wedding?
Wedding Thank you’s:
These would be for people who give us gifts, money, etc. at our actual wedding. We would also thank them in the same card for attending our special day, etc.
So like I said, will there be some people who will receive three thank you cards? My mom also thinks anything related to the actual wedding (before wedding gifts that are sent to us, and wedding gift thank you cards) need to be more formal and cannot say the words, Thank you, on the front of the card. They need to say things like Mrs. & Mr. or the New Mr. and Mrs. so and so. Or our new initials. BUT since I will be sending out thank you cards before the wedding to some people who send us gifts before our wedding, these obviously should not say Mr. and Mrs. on the front since we wont be married yet. Are these ok to say thank you on the front??
UGH, hopefully someone out there understands all of this. I am fine with all of the cards saying thank you on the front. I am also fine wih thanking everyone after my shower, and then thanking everyone after our wedding. And thats it. My mom really thinks we are going to get tons of gifts before and be sending out thank you’s like crazy before. But what if these people also come to our wedding??? HELP, all of this is frying my brain and doesnt make any sense. I can respect and understand the whole etiquette thing, but damn this is kind of ridiculous.