Post # 1
So I have found myself in a tough situation. Three months (to the day) of our wedding, my young (54 years old), healthy, and absolutely vibrant father had a terrible accident which resulted in his death. This happened as we were in the process of writing wedding thank you cards. As you can probably imagine, this completely shocked our family, friends, and entire community. It has been a long and delicate road to feeling any semblance of “healing” from this horrendous event and loss. My dad was a HUGE part of our wedding day (and it was his self-proclaimed “BEST DAY EVER!”), and every time I look at wedding photos, see a clip of our video, or even think about our wedding I have a hard time controlling my emotions and depression. This has made it nearly impossible to continue writing wedding thank you cards without thinking of him and losing my s**t.
So now it has been almost 8 months since my dad’s passing and almost a year since our wedding… is it worth powering through and sending them at this point? Everyone who was at the wedding knows what happened (and many actually attended his funeral) so I don’t think anyone would blame us for not sending cards… but I feel so guilty. What do you guys think I should do? Please try to refrain from harshness… it’s been a really tough time. Thanks.
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
I would send out the ones you have done and scrap the rest. Etiquette be damned. If anyone says anything about it, hopefully someone will put them in their place.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your loss. People who would wonder where their thank you card is after grieving the loss of your father with you aren’t worth your energy.
Please try to be kinder to yourself ❤️
Post # 4
Nothing to feel guilty about.
Post # 5
You’re good. I lost my father a few years ago before our wedding. It’s very hard. I’m so sorry for your loss. No one should wonder why they weren’t sent they know.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry for your loss Bee; don’t sweat the cards – your loved ones understand without being told. Treasure the memories & May you find peace in the joyful times you had together.
Post # 7
If it’s important to you to finish, can’t your husband write them?
Post # 8
This! In fact, the husband probably could have taken this over months ago.
Bee, I’m sorry for your loss. I think you guys should still complete your thank you cards and send them out. People still gifted you something. They will understand the delay and it will be out your mind forever then.
Post # 9
I second (third?) your husband finishing them off. If you don’t send them I’m sure everyone would understand, but if you already have a chunk completed you may as well use them, surely your husband could do the rest.
Post # 10
I think thank you cards are outdated anyways. Scrap em. If it’s important to you that they go out, get your husband to do them, it’s not as if they’re solely your responsibility.
Post # 11
I am so sorry for your loss. Whilst I am sure your guests will understand I agree that your husband should finish them off.