(Closed) Thank you cards etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

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MadamePants:  I agree with you. Gifts do not need to be very expensive to be cherished. There are plenty of nice but inexpensive options and there are also plenty of options for handmade things that can be cherished for years to come.

Post # 32
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Buzzing bee

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MrsBuesleBee:  Lol, I hope they don’t think it’s a Christmas present!

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I had a family member come without a gift.  I know that they were in a tight spot, but it did hurt my feelings that they couldn’t even get a card from Dollar Tree and write something nice in it.  I’m with your friend for not sending you a card and am surprised that you expected it.  It costs a lot to pay for guests, and a card is reasonable.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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blummer:  No, it’s not weird to not get a thank you card if you didn’t give a gift.

 

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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aspasia475:  Someone did that at our wedding and I thought it was so sweet! One of the guests who didn’t bring a gift sent the nicest thank you, thanking us for the evening. It was such a fun note to find when we came back from the honeymoon!

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Marquee - Private Property

I think a thank you card should be given, regardless of the gift. There shouldn’t be any expectation of a gift, and I think it’s lovely to thank people for sharing in your union.

We actually went to a wedding in March and DID give the couple a gift but never received a thank you. We went to dinner at another couple’s place on the weekend only to see a big thank you on their fridge from that wedding. Ouch.

 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

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blummer:  We sent a thank you card to every single guest, gift or not… but we only invited 50 VERY close family and friends, so to me it just meant a lot that they came. Gifts don’t matter to me at all.

I also paid for my maid-of-honour’s dress, accessories and shoes though, so I’m not the norm.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

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MissTravelbug:  Maybe it got lost in the mail or they accidentally missed you out?? One of our wedding invitations got lost in the mail… and we also had a few mishaps with the thank-you cards that only got straightened out months later. Anyway, maybe give them the benefit of the doubt.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We just sent our thank you cards. We sent one to everyone even though we had a few guests come with nothing not even a card 🙁 and none of them are really struggling financially. We also allowed 2 of them to bring a random friend along we had never met as they wouldnt know anyone else and didnt even get a card to say thanks. I dont mind if people can’t afford gifts, we had one couple who are short of cash but used our invite to make a homemade card with all our wedding details to put in a frame and i thought that was a beautiful gift. You don’t need to spend much to show some appreciation for a night of free food, drinks and entertainment. I’m sure even if you were at home that night you would be spending at least $2 on a meal for dinner so you could use that $2 to buy us a card and leave your well wishes considering that your meal was free. Even a cheap xmas ornament or something for us to remember our day with would be appreciated. I think it’s terribly rude and if i couldnt bring even a card at all I would rather decline the event. Most of these people earn more than us and are always travelling, going out drinking etc too its not like they are struggling students or something. 

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We are only sending Thank You Cards to those who gave us something (cash or a gift). We have about half of them donw, and I would like to get more done by the end of the month so we’re not SO close to the 3-month mark.

Post # 41
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Helper bee

Guests have upto one year to send a present after the wedding. The Couple only send gifts for gifts, (physical or monetary) recieved… It was not in poor etiquette for her to Not send you a thank you note.

 

 

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Well I am sure glad I read this today… I was under the impressions everyone gets a card… saved me some dinero in my paper budget lol

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