Post # 1
Since I have joined the bee, I have noticed a number of posts about sending guests thank you cards for attending the wedding. I am aware that you should write thank you notes to shower hostesses, for shower gifts, to the wedding party, to vendors, to parents, to wedding gift givers, etc. Before I came here, I had never heard of writing thank you notes to people simply for attending the wedding (those who do not bring a gift). If this is supposed to happen, do I just go through the guest book so I can remember all who attended? Thanks in advance! I don’t want to have poor etiquette. 😀
Post # 3
@PilotsGirl56: I’m no etiquette expert, but I *believe* the reception is considered the thank you to those who do not bring a card/gift. Only those who gift you something need to get a thank you after the wedding.
Post # 4
It is actually more polite to not send a thank you note to people who didn’t bring a gift as it can be seen as fishing for one.
Verbally thank your guests for coming at the wedding. That in combination of the reception itself are the thanks for coming.
Written notes are for gifts, since you cannot thank them for the gift still on the gift table,that you haven’t yet opened or received.
Post # 5
Typically from what I’ve read here, TYs were not written for attending and no gift. I only had 2 people attend without a gift and I did write a Thank You. One was one of my parents good friends who they thought the gift must have gotten lost cause they were sure they would not have one. (They ended up sending a gift a mont later). And the other was my SIL. They travelled and had to get airfare for 3 and came up early to spend a little more time with us, so we felt the formality of a Thank You card should be sent to them.
Post # 6
@hisgoosiegirl: I agree, no expert here either but I believe it is only required to send a thank you to those that gave you a gift.
Post # 7
To me the presence of each person that attended my wedding was gift enough and I wanted to thank them for that regardless of whether they also got us a wrapped gift/card or not. So we sent thank you’s to everyone! 🙂
Post # 9
@PilotsGirl56: I wouldn’t write a thank you note to a non-gift giver. I see the purpose of thank you notes as a way to thank someone for their gift, so I don’t see the point if no gift was given. On a side note, I love your avatar!
Post # 10
@MsPoodles: Thank you! We are doing the cutting cake as seen but using cupcakes instead of the mini square cakes. We ordered some little white ribbon picks off etsy for the cupcakes. 😀
Post # 11
Nope, only people who gave us gifts got thank you cards. And one person who didn’t, but he was in the ceremony (honour guard) so it still seemed appropriate to thank him for “working” at our wedding for free.
Post # 12
I would only send a Thank You to those that brought gifts. The reception is Thank You enough!!