(Closed) Thank you cards for ONLY attending wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you/do you plan to write thank you notes to non-gift giving wedding guests?
    yes : (10 votes)
    31 %
    no : (22 votes)
    69 %
    maybe; see comments : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    5295 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @PilotsGirl56:  I’m no etiquette expert, but I *believe* the reception is considered the thank you to those who do not bring a card/gift. Only those who gift you something need to get a thank you after the wedding. 


    Post # 4
    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    It is actually more polite to not send a thank you note to people who didn’t bring a gift as it can be seen as fishing for one.

    Verbally thank your guests for coming at the wedding. That in combination of the reception itself are the thanks for coming.

    Written notes are for gifts, since you cannot thank them for the gift still on the gift table,that you haven’t yet opened or received.

    Post # 5
    14661 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Typically from what I’ve read here, TYs were not written for attending and no gift.  I only had 2 people attend without a gift and I did write a Thank You.  One was one of my parents good friends who they thought the gift must have gotten lost cause they were sure they would not have one.  (They ended up sending a gift a mont later).  And the other was my SIL.  They travelled and had to get airfare for 3 and came up early to spend a little more time with us, so we felt the formality of a Thank You card should be sent to them.


    Post # 6
    4272 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @hisgoosiegirl:  I agree, no expert here either but I believe it is only required to send a thank you to those that gave you a gift.

    Post # 7
    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    To me the presence of each person that attended my wedding was gift enough and I wanted to thank them for that regardless of whether they also got us a wrapped gift/card or not.  So we sent thank you’s to everyone!  🙂

    Post # 9
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @PilotsGirl56:  I wouldn’t write a thank you note to a non-gift giver. I see the purpose of thank you notes as a way to thank someone for their gift, so I don’t see the point if no gift was given. On a side note, I love your avatar!

    Post # 11
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Nope, only people who gave us gifts got thank you cards.  And one person who didn’t, but he was in the ceremony (honour guard) so it still seemed appropriate to thank him for “working” at our wedding for free.


    Post # 12
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I would only send a Thank You to those that brought gifts. The reception is Thank You enough!!

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