(Closed) Thank you cards for shower gifts?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

We did shower thank you notes — and our shower was just about one month before the wedding.  Could you have the fiance help you with this task?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I feel a thank you for any gift is a must.  

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

You’re completely wrong. Of course you need to send thank you notes for shower gifts. Why woukd you not?

I really thought you were kidding,but I guess not.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You’re completely wrong. 🙂 You need to send thank you’s for all gifts received for the wedding, shower and actual wedding gifts! Crack open a bottle of wine, get Fiance to help and it won’t be that bad. I promise! 

Post # 7
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Worker bee

I would do the thank you notes. It’s a nice gesture, and overall it’s better to over-thank than to leave guests who are expecting a written note without one. The notes don’t need to be very long… thank them for the gift, say how nice it was to see them, and that you look forward to seeing them at the wedding!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I agree, it is a huge pain but it’s a must. Regardless of when you receive the gift, a Thank You card is IMO expected. You can keep them short and sweet, no need to write a letter, just “Dear X, Thanks so much for the X. So great to see you at my shower.”

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, I agree you need to send a thank you note.  Yes, they are a pain to write, but send them anyway.  Was your fiance at the shower? Get your fiance to help and it won’t take as long.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You definitly want to send thank you cards for the shower. Like KateMV said, crack open a bottle of wine, pop a good movie in, grab you fiance (ask him to address the envelopes or something), and you’ll be done in no time.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You absolutely have to send a thank you  for the shower gifts!  Any gift needs a thank you!  You can always get thank you cards at the dollar store if it’s a money issue! 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@EngagedToPanda, I understand that you are broke but I do believe that you can send the thank you cards after the wedding. I had my shower the middle of July and have not sent my Thank You cards out yet but will be doing so, hopefully before the wedding but I do not believe you are breaking any etiquette rules by sending them out after the wedding. Just as long as you send out a card, you should be fine.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

In my opinion, thank you cards for shower gifts are quite common.  I think not sending one would be bad etiquette.  The thank you cards don’t have to be fancy and expensive, you can probably find a pack at the dollar store!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Even if you are broke, you need to thank you guests with an actual thank you card. I’m sorry, but it’s completely inappropriate and bad etiquette to just say thanks and give them a hug. They spent money on YOU and you need to thank them appropriately, no matter what the gift was. Buy a packet of cards from Walmart for $2.99 and stick your 44 cent stamp on it.

I’ve been to too many events (weddings included, wtf) and not received a formal thank you, and it always bristles my feathers! It won’t take long!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yes, thank-yous are a must! Do you have any paper laying around that you can fold together and make your own cards?

If you don’t have a spreadsheet of everyones’ addresses setup yet, you should spend the time doing that now, since you will need thank-yous for all wedding gifts, too. Then you can do a mail merge and print all of the addresses and returns on the envelopes to save time.

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