(Closed) Thank you cards for shower gifts?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

You’re guests went out of their way to purchase you a gift, the least you can do is send a note. I DIYed mine becauase I agree, the cost of thank you notes gets pricey.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I sometimes feel that thank you cards are overdone.  I don’t need a thank you card from my 2 year old nephew who can’t write yet. 

So, from someone who thinks that thank you cards are overdone, I’m telling you that you really DO have to send shower thank you cards!  They don’t have to be fancy, just buy a packet of them at walmart or the dollar store and get writing! 

How many people gave you shower gifts?  It will cost you about $11 per 20 thank you notes, stamps included!  Skip starbucks two mornings this week and you can pay for 20 thank you notes.  If you really can’t afford it, ask your stepmom for help since she has encouraged you to write them.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I just had my shower and definitely plan on sending Thank You cards. Its the least I can do for people who spent a lot of their time and money on me and my fiance. I just bought 20 handmade cards on Etsy from Peculiar Parchment for $6. Got some envelopes for $4.75 from another seller, Chelsea Paper. With shipping the total came to under $15.

If you can’t afford $15 and one evening to thank people for spending a day making it all about you, maybe you should reconsider asking for gifts in the first place. I’m not trying to be snarky, but I think people these days are really getting caught up in the things they want to do for themselves and wanting everything to be fun. But sometimes, you just gotta suck it up and do the right thing.

And I for one can never receive too many thank yous!

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The Thank Yous are a must.  I’ve found great cards for $2.00 at the Christmas Tree Shop and they always have them in clearance bins, etc.  Even blank cards will do. If postage is an issue, ask a friend to help you hand deliver them, but definitely get them.  If nothing else, I know of some people who woouldn’t be getting you a wedding gift if they don’t receive a thank you from the shower.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Maybe you don’t have to (I read on some other thread that thank you cards are only required when you haven’t had the chance to thank the giver in person), but I know I would be insulted if I bought someone a shower gift and didn’t get a thank you card in writing later. In fact, it would probably diminish my generosity for the wedding gift.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yup, they’re a must.  Maybe you could find some cute cheap postcards, which will save money on postage too! 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Thank you cards for shower gifts are ESSENTIAL.

I will second ddubzz suggestion and say do postcards! And make your Fiance help you.

Post # 24
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You must send a thank you note! I can remember every person I’ve given a gift to that hasn’t given me a thank you note. It totally grinds my gears… It’s just proper & polite to do so. Like Marigold, if I didn’t receive a thank you note for the shower present– I’d be a lot less generous when the wedding ceremony rolls around. 

The postcard idea is a cute, quick & easy option! Happy writing 🙂

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Thank you cards are definitely a must for any gift recieved for both the wedding and the shower. And I don’t think that you can wait until after the wedding and send one for both.  I did my thank-you notes within 3 days of our shower and they only took me a few hours (I probably had close to 50).  It really wasn’t that bad–just some minor hand cramping! While people enjoy spoiling us brides during this time, the last thing any of us would want to seem like is not grateful.  Saying “thank-you” at the shower is not sufficient.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You must send thank you notes for your gifts. You don’t have to spend tons of money on stationary, go to the dollar store and pick some up. But you must send them.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Thank you notes are an absolute must! 

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I know you feel like you’ve already thanked people in person at the shower, but a written thank you note should still be sent. You may think it’s overkill, but your guests will appreciate the gesture. Even if they just gave you cash for your photographer, they also took the time to attend your shower, probably find you a nice card for their cash or check. You are thanking them for honoring you. I wouldn’t wait until after your wedding. How many guests do you need to thank? Here’s a quick template:

Dear Guest,

Thank you so much for coming to my shower. It was wonderful to see you. I was overwhelmed by your generosity with your contribution to our photography fund. FH and I are so grateful to you. Thanks again and we look forward to seeing you at the wedding!

Love,

EngagedtoPanda

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yep, and I’m sure by now you get the picture, but you definitely need to.  If you don’t, I think people will feel slighted.  Like pp’s said, just get those cheap packs of 10 or 12 at Target, Walmart etc and write a simple note thanking them for their generosity.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Yep, it’s important to do!  We just DIYed ours.  It was honestly really cheap for us to do, because we used leftover paper from our invitations and just whipped up a little “Thank You” graphic and printed them out, folded them up,a nd sent them on their way.  Ours went out a few days after my first shower, it honestly wasn’t that big of a deal.  You could always go find some at Target or something to write in?  Everybody will really appreciate it! 

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Yes, thank you notes for shower gifts are an absolute must!

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