Thank You Cards – is this ok??

posted 2 years ago in Paper
  • poll: What should I do??
    Send both cards (photo card with general message as well as a handwritten card) : (38 votes)
    83 %
    Order new thank you cards with a space for a handwritten message : (8 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
    2653 posts
    Sugar bee

    Not at all. Adding a personal thank you note is just fine, not sure what would be tacky about that. 


    Post # 3
    6379 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think including an additional card is a great idea. Then they can keep the photo (if they want to) but also get a nice heartfelt thank you. 

    Post # 4
    433 posts
    Helper bee

    bridetobee0917 :  That is fine. You can also get 1 sided blank paper the size of the card so that you can insert it inside the card. You would want to make sure that they have some weight to it( not normal printer paper). Also it would look great if you could pic a color from the card u already have and have that one sided paper in that color. Eg: if ur card has majority lavender, get lavender 1 sided paper. Then you can hand write in that. That will look like a part of the card.

    Post # 5
    13584 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If I’m understanding correctly that you’d include your pre-printed photo card AND a separate generic thank you card in the same envelope, yes, I would think that was weird.  Is there no space in the card where you could write a hand-written note?  Most pre-printed cards only have writing on one flap on the inside. If there’s that space, I would use that before adding a second thank you card. 

    Post # 6
    872 posts
    Busy bee

    I think what you are describing are pre-printed no fold thank you cards.  If this is the case you can get the generic cards at Michaels and insert the photo thank-you cards inside them.  I would not think that was odd and would appreciate the hand written note.

    Post # 8
    76 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    I decided to hand write all of my cards and it took FOREVER. Be aware of this! lol.. I really wish I just got ones printed with a message already written.. maybe you can just hand write a little note for all the important people at the wedding, and not every single person? Just a suggestion. I really don’t know if many people even truly care what the card even says? Unless they actually played a big part in the wedding and will be keeping the card!

    Post # 9
    3837 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    A think a card and a non-folded card with photos on is fine 🙂 

    We handwrote all our thankyous and think people really did appreciate it. 

    Post # 10
    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would find it weird, and they would go straight in the bin, but I would appreciate it anyway!
    Could you clip a hole into the corner and tie them together with a little ribbon? Make it look more intentional?

    Post # 11
    11974 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    A handwritten letter or note is always required. People don’t appreciate a delay in acknowledging their gifts in order to wait for photo cards even when there is room for a personal message. Making people wait for a pre-printed, impersonal postcard only adds insult to injury. 

    While including a personal note would meet the obligation, in practical terms people will realize that your first instinct was inappropriate. I’d personally skip them, and consider it a learning experience. 

    Post # 12
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 1983

    Thank-you notes should fold. They are handwritten and specific. At least three sentences. Mailed no longer than two weeks after receipt of gift.

    Post # 13
    6300 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I would probably just send the blank ones with handwritten messages. Most people are probably not going to be fussed about getting a bunch of pictures of you (I have to be honest and say that I find thank you cards that feature the couple really weird/narcissistic almost; we sent photos out, but they were of the people we were sending them to, not us), and as PP said it’s going to be obvious that your original intention was to just send generic thank yous (which is SO rude IMO).

    So yeah I’d get rid of the printed ones (maybe give them to people who might actually want them, like grandparents) and just send the hand written ones.

    Post # 15
    6300 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    bridetobee0917 :  yeah we get them here too, I’ve just never been a fan, likewise with photo save the dates. It just seems unnecessary to me. Don’t get me wrong, I like photos of my friends, but I just wouldn’t display their wedding photos.

    I appreciate this is maybe just me, though.

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