Post # 1
I just received my thank you cards which I ordered from Optimal Print, and they turned out so beautiful and I am super happy with them. There are 5 photos on the front and 2 photos on the back with a short and sweet pre-written general thank you message with our names and wedding date underneath. I now realize that it would be much more personal and meaningful to hand write my thank yous. Not sure what I was thinking when I ordered them, I think because the last few weddings I went to had pre-written thank you messages on their cards and I didn’t think much of it so I did the same… but anyways, I have decided that I will be handwriting thank you messages but I don’t want to order all new cards.
Would it be tacky/rude if I include a small blank thank you card (they have pretty ones at Michaels) with a handwritten message inside? And also give the photo card with the general message on it? Would you think it was weird if you received something like this? Or should I order all new thank you cards with a space on them to handwrite a message? (Again, i would rather not put the cards I ordered to waste if possible!)
Thank you in advance!
Post # 2
Not at all. Adding a personal thank you note is just fine, not sure what would be tacky about that.
Post # 3
I think including an additional card is a great idea. Then they can keep the photo (if they want to) but also get a nice heartfelt thank you.
Post # 4
bridetobee0917 : That is fine. You can also get 1 sided blank paper the size of the card so that you can insert it inside the card. You would want to make sure that they have some weight to it( not normal printer paper). Also it would look great if you could pic a color from the card u already have and have that one sided paper in that color. Eg: if ur card has majority lavender, get lavender 1 sided paper. Then you can hand write in that. That will look like a part of the card.
Post # 5
If I’m understanding correctly that you’d include your pre-printed photo card AND a separate generic thank you card in the same envelope, yes, I would think that was weird. Is there no space in the card where you could write a hand-written note? Most pre-printed cards only have writing on one flap on the inside. If there’s that space, I would use that before adding a second thank you card.
Post # 6
I think what you are describing are pre-printed no fold thank you cards. If this is the case you can get the generic cards at Michaels and insert the photo thank-you cards inside them. I would not think that was odd and would appreciate the hand written note.
Post # 7
Thank you for your input ladies. They are no fold thank you cards (ie. like a postcard style I suppose) and they literally have no space to write on! I found some very simple and elegant small thank you cards from Michaels which happen to match the trim on the photo card perfectly! So I am going to go ahead and include one of those with a handwritten message in each envelope. I suppose I was worried that the handwritten cards would seem like an afterthought but they actually go together really nicely now that’s I’ve written up a few and see them together.
Post # 8
I decided to hand write all of my cards and it took FOREVER. Be aware of this! lol.. I really wish I just got ones printed with a message already written.. maybe you can just hand write a little note for all the important people at the wedding, and not every single person? Just a suggestion. I really don’t know if many people even truly care what the card even says? Unless they actually played a big part in the wedding and will be keeping the card!
Post # 9
A think a card and a non-folded card with photos on is fine 🙂
We handwrote all our thankyous and think people really did appreciate it.
Post # 10
I would find it weird, and they would go straight in the bin, but I would appreciate it anyway!
Could you clip a hole into the corner and tie them together with a little ribbon? Make it look more intentional?
Post # 11
A handwritten letter or note is always required. People don’t appreciate a delay in acknowledging their gifts in order to wait for photo cards even when there is room for a personal message. Making people wait for a pre-printed, impersonal postcard only adds insult to injury.
While including a personal note would meet the obligation, in practical terms people will realize that your first instinct was inappropriate. I’d personally skip them, and consider it a learning experience.
Post # 12
Thank-you notes should fold. They are handwritten and specific. At least three sentences. Mailed no longer than two weeks after receipt of gift.
Post # 13
I would probably just send the blank ones with handwritten messages. Most people are probably not going to be fussed about getting a bunch of pictures of you (I have to be honest and say that I find thank you cards that feature the couple really weird/narcissistic almost; we sent photos out, but they were of the people we were sending them to, not us), and as PP said it’s going to be obvious that your original intention was to just send generic thank yous (which is SO rude IMO).
So yeah I’d get rid of the printed ones (maybe give them to people who might actually want them, like grandparents) and just send the hand written ones.
Post # 14
barbie86 : Hmm it honestly never occurred to me that sending a photo card of us would be considered narcissistic. Maybe it’s the “trend” or norm where I live, but every wedding I have attended in the last 5 years or so (at least) have been followed by a thank you card with at least one photo of the couple on it or more commonly a collage of photos. Personally I have them all displayed on my fridge and have for years, I love having photos of my friends and family around the house! It’s also a way to get more “use” out of the professional wedding photos which most people spend a ton of money on. I guess if some people don’t like the photos they can just chuck them in the trash, haha.
Thank you again for your opinions everyone, I should have thought it through better before I ordered them.
Post # 15
bridetobee0917 : yeah we get them here too, I’ve just never been a fan, likewise with photo save the dates. It just seems unnecessary to me. Don’t get me wrong, I like photos of my friends, but I just wouldn’t display their wedding photos.
I appreciate this is maybe just me, though.