(Closed) Thank you cards – multiple questions

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I got picture thank you cards made on shutterfly.  I also looked at options at vistaprint.com.  You have up until 6 months to send thank yous.

I just had a bride send a vellum thank you note (see through paper) just placed on top of pictures of the guests from her wedding. She had 4×6’s printed of the guests either from the photo booth or from the reception pictures and sent those instead. We printed the pics for $0.09 a piece and printed the vellum thank you’s for less than $20. She got back such a nice response from her friends and family who were delighted to receive pictures of themselves.

Post # 5
4332 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve scoured places like TJMaxx and found some really nice cheap but nice and even fun thank-you cards. I’ve even gotten some on sale, so they were like $3 for 16! (but…I’m not sure what you mean by tacky…I would consider the ones I found [and love] to be fun, but perhaps some would call them tacky! 😀 )

takes a bit of work, but if you like bargain shopping, it’s really fun. I also think that I saw some at target for like $2 for a big pack of very simple, white “thank you” cards. I can’t find them online, and I keep forgetting to go back and check! I couldn’t believe it when I saw them, and thought, “I should totally buy these for my wedding thank-yous,” but I didnt and now I regret it!

Post # 6
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My brother did postcards from his honeymoon location as thank yous.


I’ve seen decent thank yous at Target, AC moore, Michaels and Christmas Tree Shops (they had different colored monogram ones that I got with my maiden inital on them for pre-wedding thank yous). Paper Source and Papyrus will also have them if there is a store near you.

Post # 7
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I sent mine about the next two weeks or so after I came back from our honeymoon. We have very little money… so I went to Target to get my cards. I got 100 Thank You cards from Target for about $5. They are very plain, “Thank You” in cursive, and blank on the inside. I wanted more of a design, but realized I couldn’t buy anything else and not feel guilty about spending all that money. Especially with postage.

Post # 8
4485 posts
Honey bee

Send them out asap. Per etiquette, you have up to a year to send them out, but the quicker, the better. Also, send thank yous to everyone who attended, regardless if they purchased a gift or not.

Post # 9
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I don’t know where people are getting six months and one year for sending thank you cards. To the extent that you follow Emily Post on etiquette, you have three months after the wedding. We sent thank you cards for gifts received before the wedding within two weeks, and wrote cards for the rest of the gifts received at the wedding on the honeymoon and within the month after the wedding. The sooner you get them sent, the less time you have to worry about them.

You also don’t have to send thank you cards to people who attended your wedding but didn’t bring a gift. You thanked them for witnessing your wedding by hosting a party for them.

We made our thank you cards to match our invitations and printed on card stock. Very inexpensive. Vistaprint, as someone suggested, is also a good source, as are Target, Michaels, Staples… Thank you cards don’t need to be fancy or expensive; they just need to be personal and prompt.

Post # 10
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Which “etiquette” rules are you asking about? Internet and modern wedding etiquiette may allow the bride and groom a year to write the thank you notes, but this is the same etiquette that allows guests a year to send a gift and requires that every invitee send a gift to a wedding or a shower, even if they politely decline the invitation.

Traditional etiquette would have you write your thank you notes the day (or day after) you’ve received a generous gift.  If, for some reason, such a gift were delivered to your wedding, instead of mailed to your home, the giver of the gift would likely understand if you delayed writing the thank you note during your honeymoon.  However, the note should be written as soon as you return.

It’s generally just better manners to write the notes as soon as you possibly are able.  To delay, simply because one may implies that the thank you is not important, which, in turn, may lead the giver to think the gift is not appreciated.

Post # 11
184 posts
Blushing bee

We used a damask theme wedding.  Wal-mart had excellent thank you notes in boxes.  $7 for 100 in black and white damask on heavy card stock with nice envelopes.

It isn’t the quality of the thank you note that matters so much—It’s that sincere handwritten message you include inside along with a quick response to the gift that is most important.

I know folks are saying it’s okay to go up to a year, but here in the south, our girls get them out much quicker than that.   Usually 3 months at the very most.  

I did receive a thank you about 6 months or so after the fact and at that point I guess I was just happy to have received one at all! 


I have hosted a couple of showers and teas where I did not get a thank you note at all!  

Post # 12
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My wedding is black and ivory, and although the design isn’t matchy matchy to my homemade invites, I found some nice simple Thank You cards at Michaels.  I think that they were $10 for 40 (including envelopes). 

I have been sending out Thank You’s the week following a party of shower pre-wedding.  I plan on getting Thank You’s out for wedding gifts after we return from our honeymoone, so within 2-3 weeks of the wedding. 

Even though it is okay to get them out within 6 months, I think that people kind of think.. “Hmmm what is this for??” when you wait too long.

Post # 13
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@Ember78: I thought the wedding favors were the ‘thank you’ for coming to the wedding and cards were for gifts. That makes more sense to me…

Post # 15
5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

My mom always tells me thank you’s have to go out before the three week mark. 

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