Post # 1
We had planned to send thank you cards out within 3 months of the wedding as I believe that to be the correct etiquette. We had hoped to send photo thankyous but I’m worried that we need to order these ASAP. We are now 6 weeks post wedding and no news from our photographer as to when they’ll be ready (to be fair I think we agreed 8 weeks but she hasn’t replied to email or phonecalls – we have her second shooters glasses).
The original package included 40 thankyou cards but that wasn’t going to be enough so we switched this for high quality prints for our parents (hoping it would be ready for Christmas gifts). So I guess I was expecting them to be ready well within the time frame. We need to arrange to go in, choose them, have them printed but I’ve no idea when.
I think I’m probably worrying too early!!
We do have 2 sneak peaks. One of which we like but we’re at a distance and one of which is “meh” (there is a brick wall behind Darling Husband and the mortar is in line with his teeth so his smile looks funny) so wouldn’t be any use for thankyous.
Anyway… is 3 months right? Am I worrying too early? Should we follow up? Should we send thankyous without photos?
Post # 2
No, three months is not a rule or standard. Thank you cards should be sent promptly as soon as possible after the gift has been received. As a guest, I would much prefer a prompt thank you card than waiting months for a photo card (that is likely just going to end up in my recycling bin, anyway).
Post # 3
Send out thank you cards ASAP, they definitely don’t need to have photos on them. Three months is a really long time tbh. I sent ours out within two weeks.
Post # 4
Photo cards are unnecessary. Sit down and write thank you notes as you open cards and packages. Mail them promptly. I have never heard the 3 month window but I’ve read plenty of posts from brides that’s put off writing thank you so long that they waited way too long.
Post # 5
Thank you cards should always be sent immediately. I’ve never heard of this three month thing.
No one cares about thank you cards with photos. What they care about us receiving an acknowledgment that their gift was received and you are appropriately grateful for it. If that includes a photo, fine – but otherwise people prefer graciousness over photos. Go buy some thank you cards at Target or wherever and get them out asap. If you think there will be people clamoring for a photo you can send them one in a holiday card or just write them again in the future for no other reason than to say hi.
Post # 6
Fab. Thanks everyone. We haven’t long finished opening them (it took over a month) so I don’t feel too awful but I would definitely feel more comfortable sending them out now. Will get these done ASAP.
Post # 7
I got married the last weekend in September and sent out our thank you’s a month ago. We just used thank you cards I bought from target. I wouldn’t wait for photo cards, you really should get thank you’s out ASAP.
Post # 8
I always thought you had a year to send thank you’s. The bee has stated otherwise, ha!
As long as you get your thank yous out I don’t see the big deal. I got a thank you card a year after the wedding and it was really sweet. It never dawned on me that they didn’t send a card right afterwards.
Post # 9
frenchtoastvegan : you have a year to send a gift, so obviously if you dont get a gift for a year, the thank you would be a year out.
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Post # 11
I sent our personally written thank you cards withinh 4-5 months. Not everyone will agree, but I honestly don’t care. I don’t care if I get a thank you card 6 months later, or a year later. a thank you card is still a thank you card. again, I know most people wouldnot agree with me, which is totally fine.
Post # 12
Traditionally, thank yous are due as gifts are received, ie right away or ASAP. Contemporary etiquette gives you no more than two or three months, while encouraging them to be sent as soon as possible as well. Photo cards are unnecessary and should not be the cause of a delay.
Wedding gifts are ideally sent ahead of time, but guests really do have a year to send a wedding present.
Post # 13
I sent my thank you’s before we reached 1 month! We got our gifts from Zola, and they tell you who sent what, so you already know what is coming 😀
Make a new rule: open the box if you don’t know what it is, but do not start using the gift until the thank you is written and sent. Do not cash a check until the thank you note is written and sent.
Post # 14
As long as it’s within six months you’re fine. No one is going to seriously harp on you for not sending them ASAP that’s an antiquated rule.