Post # 1
I’ve been married for just over a week (7/17/2012) I had a shower May 25/26? And another one two weeks later. I am still getting wedding gifts/cards/checks in the mail, since we have only been home less than a week from our DW/HM.
My grandmother (who didn’t come to the wedding, had zero to do with the wedding, and complained about coming to one of the showers, old bitty) has called me twice to remind me to send thank you cards. Don’t I have a little bit of time to do this? I mean stuff is still arriving! Also I wanted to wait until we had our pro pics back to use one of those.
What is the rule on this?
Post # 4
You write the thank you note for a gift the very first moment you have a chance! Your grandmother is right – you should be writing thank you’s like a crazy women to catch up. Honestly, if I’d given you a gift in May and had received no thank you note yet, I’d be terribly insulted.
You have a year to get gifts, Are you going to wait a year to write thank you notes?
As you get a gift, write the note.
Sit down and get the shower thank yous out this weekend! You do have a few of weeks after the wedding to get the ones done for gifts received at the wedding, since there are usually quite a few, and it’s assumed you’re on your honeymoon for the time right after.
Post # 5
u have i think 6 months for thank yous.. i had bridal shower thank you cards out in mail two days after shower. (first one) wedding gift thank yous went out a week after wedding. any gifts mailed to house a thank you went out the following day i received it. and this last shower(last week) thank yous will be giving this sunday at church.
Post # 6
My personal opinion is to get these out within a month post wedding. For my shower, I had my invites out the following week. My cousin didn’t send invites out until 5 months after their wedding and after about 2 months I started wondering why we hadn’t received a thank you.
Post # 7
OK, I’ll just get some generic thank yous and write them out, nbd
Post # 8
Why do they have to be generic? Each thank you should be personalized. I agree with the others, send them out as you receive gifts! I think you have closer to 2 months than 6 etiquette-wise, but I may be way off. My mother was appalled that mine didn’t go out the same month as the wedding. 🙁
Post # 9
Your shower thank you notes should have been out within a few weeks of each shower. Do those immediately.
You need to write the other thank you notes ASAP, especially for anything received before the wedding. Write a note for each gift, meaning separate notes for the shower and wedding if applicable. I wouldn’t wait for a photo – people care about being thanked, not the photo. It can take months to get a photo, order cards, write the cards, etc. Just get them out of the way now.
Post # 10
@Juliepants: i think she ment non personalized wedding picture thank you cards. just regular store “thank you” cards
Post # 11
@MississippiQueen: I would get it done ASAP, the sooner the better!
Post # 12
@asianyoushi: Ahh, thanks. I reread the OP and didn’t see that lines about pro pics.
I’d wanted to wait for mine, too, but had a lot of pressure to get them out. My photographer was able to send me the files I wanted from the sneak peek so although I didn’t get special cards made up, I was able to tuck a photo or two into each store-bought card.
Post # 13
I started writing mine directly after the wedding, partly to keep the magic going and partly because I was SO sick of having tasks to do that I just wanted to get it off my list!