(Closed) Thank you cards/terrible handwriting

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Thank you

    FI writes them all

    Use my chicken scratch

    typed notes

  • Post # 2
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    asobos:  I too have terrible handwriting. I gave up a long time ago and print. If I ever have to submit something handwritten, I practice beforehand then take my time.

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

     

    Well if your Fiance is willing to sit down with you (and he should anyway) and write out the thank you notes, I think you should do that! I mean the thank you cards should be from both of you anyway, so for him to write them out and then you to stamp them and keep track of them is a good way to do it. I have pretty bad handwriting too but usually I just try to take my time and write thank you’s slowly so they’re a little more legible lol

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee

    My H does not have the best handwritting so I wrote all of the notes.  If it were the other way, I am sure my H would have stepped up to the plate and wrote them all.  I mean it was both of our weddings, not just mine, so we both should have a hand in it.  So I wrote them all but he had to lick all the envelopes.

    Post # 5
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    asobos:  Why would your Fiance hate you at the end if he has to write all of them?  This comment kind of makes me upset…it’s not the woman’s job to write the thank you cards for gifts that were given to both of you.  (Ok, it’s your job to write the thank you cards for shower gifts.)

    I think you have several good options

     – You and your Fiance split the cards and each write half.  He could write the ones to the people who he really doesn’t want exposed to your chicken scratch.

     – Your Fiance writes them all.  You can take on addressing envelopes (by printer) and you could sit with him and help him think of what to say in each card, which is really the hardest part.

     – You could type them, but if you do I would jsut make sure to make each one really personalized and individual.  If you don’t hand write it people will assume more easily that you skipped the work of thinking about each message individually.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee

    I like cbgg’s second idea.  I actually typed out all of the responses before I even picked up a pen.  Maybe you could come up with the responses and then your Fiance could just basically copy the responses onto the card.  Then you can do the addresses, stamps and licking of the envelopes.  That seems pretty fair to me.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2017 - France

    We both have crappy handwriting lol but I’m going to do my best, I thought about typing it with a handwritten font but meh still a lot of work so might as well just write then, I’m leaving the ones in French to Fiance.

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee

    When I was a kid we had to learn how to write with a fountain pen-they force you to write slow (as the ink otherwise smears) and it always looks a lot more fancy than a regular pen. You could always start practicing with that now and maybe write the envelopes already now-ahead of time. If that is not an option I would type it-which can be complicated depending on the cards you use.

    But I agree, I think that chore should be split (but in the end I wrote all thank you cards myself too, because DH handwriting looks like a bird walked over the paper). 

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

    The sentiment isn’t lost just because the message is typed. I know not having it handwritten is frowned upon, but I think gratitude and appreciation can be typed out just as well.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I dont think it matters who writes them as long as they are handwritten. As long as the message is coming from you, have your aunt Betty Sue write them, who cares. No one knows what your handwriting looks like. 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee

    I had DH address all our invitations because he his printing is perfect! Thank you cards, I helped with though. As long as people could read it, I didn’t really care. It’s the message that counts!

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    asobos:  FYI I bought a handwriting book last year off amazon and it’s really improved my handwriting.  You might want to invest in one!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I really think that thank you notes need to be handwritten. If I was you, I’d be telling your Fiance that you’re happy to split them BUT he is not allowed to complain about your handwriting. If he isn’t happy with sending notes out with your handwriting on them, then he is more than welcome to write all of the thank you notes himself. If he’s really that concerned about it, you can write the notes for your family and he can write the notes for his.

    For our engagement party last year, I wrote all of the thank you notes. My Fiance has okay handwriting, but only if he writes slowly – if he writes quickly, it become illegible. He said he was happy to split them, but I said I’d rather do them all myself (if he didn’t mind) because I’d get them done quicker. He contributed by putting the stamps and our return address labels on lol.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t have great writing either, but DH’s is worse than mine.  It took me forever to do each one because I had to be very careful about my handwriting (and spelling as I’m dyslexic which lends to the bad handwriting)  I think people appriciate the fact that they are writen and aren’t going to judge to hard on how well they are written. 

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