Post # 1
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2790 posts
Sugar bee
SO has decided that it would be easier if we just combined accounts because I am the one who spends all my time paying our bills out of separate accounts anyways. It’s baby steps people, baby steps.He has always said that he wants to wait to combine until we get married because we both have decided that we want to combine everything together. So this means that we are inching ever so closer to my ring.
Also, I will find out by the end of the week if SO passed a test and got a really great job for the rest of his unemployment or if I will be waiting until 2013 to get married. I’m praying I don’t have to have a nervous breakdown on Friday! He is supposed to go back to work in April but he is union and this is a contract year so there is possibility of strike and his job doesn’t pay enough for us to save up quickly enough to get engaged this year. With this job he’s testing for we would be able to get engaged hopefully before summer. SAWEET!!
SO is complaining he’s cold in bed so I gots to go. Have a good night ladies just wanted to share my good news!
Post # 3
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14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
YYYYYAAAAYYYYY! Your one step closer, I will keep sending good thoughts for the job and keep it in my prayers. Night.
Post # 4
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2790 posts
Sugar bee
@tksjewelry:Awww Thanks:) I feel like I’m starting to be an old maid after a year on the waiting boards.
Post # 5
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870 posts
Busy bee
@MsBrooklynA: Haha–I love the idea of engagement gods. But if they’re out there they’ve been playing with my emotions! (I was feeling down yesterday and was in a grumpy mood because of it. Boyfriend or Best Friend saw this and tried to cheer me up by asking if I was excited for Friday. Because he has a surprise dinner for Valentine’s day set up. But how am I not supposed to get my hopes up even though I know for sure he’s not proposing then?! Sigh.)
Anyway, don’t feel like an old maid–I’ve been here as long as you have and I definitely didn’t think I would! And it sounds like you’re making great progress!
Post # 6
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3302 posts
Sugar bee
Yay- another step closer!!!
Post # 7
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2790 posts
Sugar bee
@Taylor4: I’m trying to. If you’ve been here as long as I have you should post more. I love to hear from the other Old Maid’s in waiting 😉 I’m not planning on a Valentines day propsal either but it is still another damn holiday I’m spending unengaged. Lame.
@armychica06:I know right! It’s something so silly to be excited about but the fact that he decided we should do it just makes me excited. He’s like “well obviously I’m going to marry you so why WOULDN’T we combine our accounts?”
Post # 8
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687 posts
Busy bee
Progress is progress! Hope you get a proposal soon!
Post # 8
Member
687 posts
Busy bee
Progress is progress! Hope you get a proposal soon!
Post # 8
Member
687 posts
Busy bee
Progress is progress! Hope you get a proposal soon!
Post # 9
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870 posts
Busy bee
@MsBrooklynA: Haha–actually I looked it up and I’ve been here about 4 months longer than you. So I’m an old old maid. I’m just not much of a poster. I tend to stick to the Not Wedding Related threads and keep a low profile. I don’t want to jinx anything!!
My guy is promising that things will happen “very soon”, but that’s down from “I won’t make you wait forever”. What the heck are those supposed to mean? But now that I’m a little more sure that it’s actually going to happen I’m trying to keep my trap shut so that the engagement is actually relaxed and surprised, not tense and forced.
Post # 10
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
So I actually thought about your post overnight and knew I should come say my peace.
I don’t think you should combine accounts. I think you should tell him that you don’t feel comfortable doing this until your married. I think that by doing stuff like this it actually makes it easier for the guy to wait because in their mind – nothing will change. They feel they practically already are engaged/married/whatever so they don’t need to take those next steps. I feel that you should hold out for the sake of putting some pressure on him to get a move on it.
This is just my personal opinion. I see tons of waiting bees coming on here saying “we live together. we share accounts. we practically are married already – why won’t he just propose already?!” and I think the reason is that the guy doesn’t feel a need to yet.
Best of luck!
Post # 11
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2893 posts
Sugar bee
I have to agree with JrzyGurl. You have to be careful about that kind of thing. It’s ok to share things, live together, etc. But you have to be careful about sharing too much. Because, like she said, guys can get complacent after they get everything but the wife. BUT, you know your relationship better than anyone on here. Either way, I hope there’s a proposal soon!