Thank you for coming

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Busy bee

It’s not something I would notice but I guess it is a little strange. It probably would have been more appropriate to thank the hosts for having everyone there. But, it’s just not that big of a deal, and I wouldn’t give much more thought to it if I were you.

Congrats on being done dealing with this wedding. 

Post # 37
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1755 posts
Buzzing bee

I have no doubt you handled yourself gracefully. I was saying often siblings or relatives feel like their connection with their siblings trumps everyone else’s relationships because they are blood related. When I said ownership that is what I meant. Her sister clearly felt jealous and like her blood relation to her sister should so obviously mean more than yours. Her jealousy was speaking since we all know blood doesn’t automatically get you a better or closer relationship. You did fine, weddings are often full of jealousy, and it can be awkward for any friends or siblings of the bride to be organized by the moh. It’s just an all around hard time for many. You did fine, it will pass 😊

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Post # 38
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Bumble bee

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soexcited123 :  that’s the thing though, I honestly dont think it was stupid. I think it’s stupid that people think it’s stupid. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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soexcited123 :  How much work did you put in vs. her contribution?  Maybe she felt like she did a lot of work and you did not, and thanking the bridesmaids as if they were there to serve you and your shine was too extra for any decent self-respecting person to swallow.  

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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soexcited123 :  Okay, so you did put in some work then.  You’re probably right about your poor delivery and her resentment for not being the Maid/Matron of Honor.  It’ll blow over.  Do right as best you can and move on.  If she wants to dwell that’s her life to taint, not yours. 

Post # 43
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7951 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

The only way I could see it being an issue is if the parents hosted and THEY were miffed at you thanking the guests. It would be their concern then- not the sister. But I seriously doubt most people would raise an eyebrow at this. It seems like such a non-issue to me.

Post # 44
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3467 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, I hosted my own wedding. So I would have been pretty irritated if anyone (especially certain folks I already had an issue with) had portrayed themselves as a host in any way. Each of my parents gave a speech, and both of them kept it very “we’re proud of you, congratulations, best wishes.” One time when I was an Maid/Matron of Honor, I was also the event planner (gave my services as a gift). In my speech, I made reference to “all the work that went into putting this together, etc” but it would not have crossed my mind to publicly welcome/thank the wedding guests or bridal party. And I’m very “into” etiquette and protocol, so if I, as the sister, had heard your speech, I might have mentioned it to another member of the bridal party just as a “omg, how cringy” observation. Had she broadcast it to a whole group of folks, that would have been an overreaction.  I’d assume she’s let it go by now and I’d let it go as well. 

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